10 Signs You’re In The Right Relationship

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Relationships can be very tricky and difficult to navigate. Sometimes you have to be  in a relationship for a long time to realize it’s not right. Sometimes you get so comfortable with unhappiness that you forget what happiness looks like, or don’t feel like you can do better.

Everything is different when you’re in the right relationship. The sun shines brighter, your smiles are bigger, simply you enjoy in your happiness. It’s good to have clear signs that you are in relationship with the right person, and it’s better to have tasks that you can work on to improve your relationship. These 10 signs shows that you are in the right relationship:

 

1. You spend time together in everything you enjoy.

It’s great to do what he/she likes. But it’s better to find things you both like to do together. Sometimes you need more time to spend together to really find things that you both like. If you’re doing things like working out together, mountain biking, playing some sports, and even writing together, you know that there is the right person to be with.

2. You spend time apart, doing things you enjoy.

When you’re in the right relationship, your partner understands that there are things you want to do with no one by your side. Maybe he’s a gamer, maybe she loves Pinterest. We know that we all need a time when we want to do our own things alone, and the right relationship is one in which both partners understand and appreciate that about each other.

3. You fight productively.

When you’re in the right relationship, fighting is never about winning and getting your point across. A productive fight is about understanding the other person, compromising, and respecting each other throughout the process. If you end a fight feeling like you’ve won, you’re doing it wrong.

4. You each have your own friends and share friends too.

Some people are in relationships where they only have couple friends. Others only have their own sets of friends. When you’re in the right relationship, you find balance between your social circle, your partner’s, and your shared circle. Missing any of those three elements may be a sign of concern.

5. You maintain self-identity.

You both celebrate being ‘you’. And you appreciate each other more for maintaining your self-identity. In the ‘true’ relationship both partners are nurtured to continuously improve and develop their ‘self’.

6. Your family and friends like your relationship.

One of the easiest ways to know if you’re in the right relationship is to pay attention to the feedback you get from friends and family. Assuming your friends and family want what is best for you, a lot of negative feedback is a bad sign. That doesn’t mean everyone will be enthusiastic about your relationship, but the overall sense you get should be positive.

7. You are able to disagree respectfully.

Some things you wont agree on. It happens. The right relationship isn’t about everything being perfect, but about partners maintaining a high level of respect when things don’t go perfectly. There are many relationships where the partners often disagree. But what separates our disagreements from others I’ve seen is that we do it respectfully. There are no hurt feelings, no efforts to change the other person’s mind at all costs, nothing like that. We don’t need to agree on everything. And that’s an important realization, because we definitely don’t.

8. You’re attracted to your partner’s mind, body, and spirit.

That attraction is for sure the first thing that motivated the pursuit of a relationship. But are you attracted to his mind? Are you attracted to her spirit? Is he the kind of person you could have conversations with years from now when you’re both old and wrinkly? Is she the kind of person whose joy will shine through when her face shows her age? You’re in relationship with the right person when you’re just as excited about the late night conversations as you are about what happens between the sheets.

9. You keep each other’s secrets.

Do you keep your each other secrets?  Are you diligent about protecting your partner’s privacy? This is a small, but very important sign that shows the level of respect and value you hold for your partner. You’re in the right relationship when you are impressed with how much your partner values protecting your secrets.

10. You are compatible sexually.

This probably goes without saying, but I’m going to say it anyway! You aren’t always going to be on the same level. Sometimes you’ll want more, sometimes she will. Sometimes you’ll feel adventurous, sometimes he will. But, generally speaking, you should be compatible with your sexual interests and desires, in quality, quantity, style, and all other characteristics. If you’re a 3–4 times a week kind of person and your partner considers once a week a chore, you might need to reconsider the longevity of your relationship.

 

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