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I have been teaching meditation for over ten years and practicing and studying the various systems for more than fifteen years I understand the mechanism of various meditations, but I must admit when I was going through anger and depression issues the one meditation that saved me was meditating using a Mantra. It holds a special place for me because of that and I owe it this blog.


So why is using a mantra so effective? put simply it’s because it employs the thinking mind instead of trying to ignore it, silence it or subdue it. It uses thoughts to transcend thoughts, which is an extremely skillful method.  To give you the heads up about the technique, without going into the philosophy of enlightenment yet, it is simply repeating a mantra over and over in your head for a set period of time.

A mantra has different sacred and profound meaning in the Buddhist and Hindu spiritual traditions but here it is simply adopted as a phrase with no special significance to replace the incessant thinking of thoughts. You employ the mind by giving it something to do, namely keep thinking over and over again of the one phrase, this is something actually everyone is pretty good at doing naturally.

To go a bit deeper into why this simple method works so well you have to understand what creates emotional suffering, that is disturbing emotions like anger, jealousy, fear, anxiety and even depression – all these disturbing emotions are cause by thinking.  Thoughts come with their own emotional charge that researchers have even discovered last about 90 seconds, (90 second secret here) the problem is we keep thinking over things reigniting the emotional charge until we become sick and weak drained of all our energy. As Eckhart Tolle so insightfully said:

“It is never the situation that cause suffering it is your thoughts about it.”

Or like the great 17th Century Zen Master Bankei when he said to a woman who asked him “…how do I stop all my suffering over my dead husband. Every time I think of him I get sad and depressed” the Zen Master simply replied “stop thinking about him.” This might strike you as callous, disrespectful or even repressing the emotion rather than ‘dealing with it’ but it has some profound and inconvenient truth to it. I was studying counseling therapy at the time when I read that passage and it just blew me away as incredibly easy, effective and a massive Zen slap in the face of modern psychological techniques that usually re-frame things, pour over past histories or actively challenge the legitimacy of thoughts, the Zen Master just exploded all of that non-sense with one decisive ‘just stop it.’

Of course that is easier said than done. To just stop it, to just drop the last thought and focus on the present moment as it is,  is a key skill in meditation especially the practice of mindfulness. But I found in desperate times I was constantly going over my problems and worries and thinking of people that pissed me off or thinking about tragic world events, my meditations just seem to fail me. This is where Mantra really helped me in these times of crisis and I think it can help anyone who practices it too. Buddha taught this simple technique 2,500 years ago and it is still powerful today. As Buddha taught I now include teaching all beginners to repeat the mantra breathing in and breathing out in co-unison with their breath as an aid to focus, relaxation and transcending mundane thoughts. You can try the technique here with my guided meditation.

As I have discovered in long meditation retreats you can get rid of the surface thoughts but then there is an undercurrent of quiet thoughts that are always going on just under the surface of normal thinking, keeping the emotional charges of disturbing emotions alive. So this is where repeatedly thinking a mantra has the power to drown out both the surface noise and eventually even the quieter undercurrent of thoughts until all that is left is the repetition of a neutral mantra and the serene state of natural awareness which starts to emerge naturally.

There is the opposite effect which positive affirmations take advantage of, by repeating empowering and ‘feel good’ statements over and over. They make you feel good, and there’s nothing wrong with that at all, it’s just not a method that takes you all the way to the clear heart of yourself. Just like ruminating on worries causes a negative disturbing charge through your body thinking of positive thoughts creates a pleasant and positive energy through your body.

Like I said there is nothing wrong with wanting to feel empowered or brave or abundant but these are artificially created feelings they are not naturally emanating from your true self; they are mind created, temporary and just like recreational drugs you need ever increasing doses to maintain the initial high of good feelings. To be quite blunt you end up delusional – always trying to think positively to get your fix of good feelings, but that’s  a story for another bog.

Our natural state of awareness unsullied by the thinking mind is naturally clear and peaceful, dare I say happy. It is not that radical an idea, except that it does challenge the classic Descartes’ idea of “I think therefore I am” – now, a more accurate rephrasing of that would be: I think therefore I get stressed. It also challenges the self development movement because I think the  scientific research proving the effectiveness of meditation point to what mystics have been saying for thousands of years: namely we are already the peace and happiness we are searching for. If we can still our minds and look within we can find what’s always been there. Happiness is more of a discovery than a creation.

The ‘I am’ as some Eastern teachers call it is the ground of our being the clear existential awareness which exists in every moment. It is obscured but never lost by what Robert Anton Wilson calls the reality tunnel. Which is simply the thoughts, ideas and beliefs that prejudice and colour the alive clarity of the present moment.

A great Zen Koan points to this original mind before mental interpretation or before obscuration by a reality tunnel by asking ‘who are you before you’re named?’ In other words there is existence before thoughts, that’s not only the heart of the matter, but finding it is exactly the purpose of life and the ultimate pursuit. This is the perennial philosophy elucidated by Aldous Huxley.

“Repeating a mantra helps to transcend all mental activity and experiences the ‘source of thought’, which is said to be pure silence, ‘pure awareness’ or ‘transcendental Being’, ‘the ultimate reality of life.”

Accessing this enlightened clear presence behind all thoughts is the purpose of repeating the Mantra. Actually one teacher has proclaimed it is the goal of all meditation techniques. Repeating the mantra is just one method to get you there or get you beyond thinking.

Importantly repeating the mantra does not just stop worrying about problems but it also suspends such ingrained subtle beliefs as personal identity and cultural narratives so you can experience a moment without these labels.

Once you have repeated the mantra long enough to stop all other compulsive and subtle thinking you can slowly let the mantra quieten down to a whisper in your mind until it finally stops all together. You can start the mantra again if thoughts intrude on your silence but eventually you can quieten all thinking long enough so all that’s left is the peaceful and joyful emptiness of awareness. This is not dull or passive but instead alive with creative potential, sensitivity to others and a deep primordial wisdom which is as old as the universe itself.

The key is that when thoughts and planning inevitably arise again you can keep contact with the enormity of silence that is always and forever in the transcendent background.

Written by Chad Foreman

25 Life Changing Lessons To Learn From Rumi

Posted November 13, 2016 By Mark

“Study me as much as you like, you will not know me, for I differ in a hundred ways from what you see me to be. Put yourself behind my eyes and see me as I see myself, for I have chosen to dwell in a place you cannot see.” ~ Rumi

Jalāl ad-Dīn Muhammad Balkhī, also known as Rumi, was a 13th-century Persian poet, jurist, theologian, and Sufi mystic who, in my personal opinion, wrote some of the most beautiful and most profound words that were ever written. You won’t believe it how much wisdom and how so much power there is in his words. It’s incredible.

Today I would like to share with you 25 life changing lessons to learn from Rumi, lessons that have the power inspire and empower you to live a more authentic, beautiful, loving and meaningful life.



1. Stop acting so small. You are the universe in ecstatic motion.

“You were born with potential. You were born with goodness and trust. You were born with ideals and dreams. You were born with greatness. You were born with wings. You are not meant for crawling, so don’t. You have wings. Learn to use them and fly.”

“You sit here for days saying, This is strange business. You’re the strange business. You have the energy of the sun in you, but you keep knotting it up at the base of your spine. You’re some weird kind of gold that wants to stay melted in the furnace, so you won’t have to become coins.”

“Why should I stay at the bottom of a well when a strong rope is in my hand?”

“Become the sky. Take an axe to the prison wall. Escape.”

“Do you know what you are? You are a manuscript oƒ a divine letter. You are a mirror reflecting a noble face. This universe is not outside of you. Look inside yourself; everything that you want, you are already that.”

2. Your job is to live your life in a way that makes sense to you, not to “them”.

“Start a huge, foolish project, like Noah…it makes absolutely no difference what people think of you.”

3. Never give up on yourself.

“When you go through a hard period, When everything seems to oppose you, … When you feel you cannot even bear one more minute, NEVER GIVE UP! Because it is the time and place that the course will divert!”

“Sorrow prepares you for joy. It violently sweeps everything out of your house, so that new joy can find space to enter. It shakes the yellow leaves from the bough of your heart, so that fresh, green leaves can grow in their place. It pulls up the rotten roots, so that new roots hidden beneath have room to grow. Whatever sorrow shakes from your heart, far better things will take their place.”

“Dance, when you’re broken open. Dance, if you’ve torn the bandage off. Dance in the middle of the fighting. Dance in your blood. Dance when you’re perfectly free.”

4. Ignorance is God’s prison.

“Ignorance is God’s prison. Knowing is God’s palace.”

5. The treasures that can be found outside of you can’t even compare with the treasures that can be found inside of you.

“You wander from room to room Hunting for the diamond necklace That is already around your neck!”

“If you knew yourself for even one moment, if you could just glimpse your most beautiful face, maybe you wouldn’t slumber so deeply in that house of clay. Why not move into your house of joy and shine into every crevice! For you are the secret Treasure-bearer, and always have been. Didn’t you know?”

“Everything in the universe is within you. Ask all from yourself.”

“Why are you so enchanted by this world, when a mine of gold lies within you?”

“You go from village to village on your horse asking everyone, “Has anyone seen my horse?”

“Don’t knock on any random door like a beggar. Reach your long hand out to another door, beyond where you go on the street, the street where everyone says, “How are you?” and no one says How aren’t you?”

“There is a fountain inside you. Don’t walk around with an empty bucket.”

6. When you let go of who you are, you become who you might be.

“Knock, And He’ll open the door Vanish, And He’ll make you shine like the sun Fall, And He’ll raise you to the heavens Become nothing, And He’ll turn you into everything.”

“Forget safety. Live where you fear to live. Destroy your reputation. Be notorious.”

“Don’t be satisfied with stories, how things have gone with others. Unfold your own myth.”

“Set your life on fire. Seek those who fan your flames.”

“Be melting snow. Wash yourself of yourself.”

7. There is something you can do better than anyone else.

“Everyone has been made for some particular work, and the desire for that work has been put in every heart.”

“Be a lamp, or a lifeboat, or a ladder. Help someone’s soul heal. Walk out of your house like a shepherd.”

8. You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.

“As you start to walk out on the way, the way appears.”

9. When you commit to something, do it with all your heart.

“Half-heartedness doesn’t reach into majesty. You set out to find God, but then you keep stopping for long periods at mean-spirited roadhouses.”

“When you do things from your soul you feel a river moving in you, a joy. When action come from another section, the feeling disappears.”

“Wherever you are, and whatever you do, be in love.”

10. Good things come to an end so that better things can fall together.

“Do not grieve. Anything you lose comes round in another form.”

11. The wound is the place where the Light enters you.

“What hurts you, blesses you. Darkness is your candle.”

“Where there is ruin, there is hope for a treasure.”

“Don’t turn away. Keep your gaze on the bandaged place. That’s where the light enters you.”

“Grief can be the garden of compassion. If you keep your heart open through everything, your pain can become your greatest ally in your life’s search for love and wisdom.”

“You have to keep breaking your heart until it opens.”

12. Do what you love and do it with love.

“Let the beauty we love be what we do.”

“Let yourself be silently drawn by the stronger pull of what you really love.”

“Be occupied, then, with what you really value and let the thief take something else.”

13. Think less. Feel more.

“Reason is powerless in the expression of Love.”

“Put your thoughts to sleep, do not let them cast a shadow over the moon of your heart. Let go of thinking.”

“Only from the heart can you touch the sky.”

“There is a candle in your heart, ready to be kindled. There is a void in your soul, ready to be filled. You feel it, don’t you?”

“Be empty of worrying. Think of who created thought! Why do you stay in prison When the door is so wide open?”

14. Love is worth it all.

“Gamble everything for love, if you’re a true human being. If not, leave this gathering.”

“Let the lover be disgraceful, crazy, absentminded. Someone sober will worry about events going badly. Let the lover be.”

15. Appreciate both the good and the bad in your life.

“Be grateful for whoever comes, because each has been sent as a guide from beyond.”

“If you are irritated by every rub, how will you be polished?”

“When someone beats a rug, the blows are not against the rug, but against the dust in it.”

16. You change your world by changing yourself.

“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.”

17. We are made of Love and made to Love.

“We are born of love; Love is our mother. “

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”

“Through Love all that is bitter will be sweet, Through Love all that is copper will be gold, Through Love all dregs will become wine, through Love all pain will turn to medicine.”

“I have no companion but Love, no beginning, no end, no dawn. The Soul calls from within me: ‘You, ignorant of the way of Love, set Me free.’ “

“That which is false troubles the heart, but truth brings joyous tranquillity.”

18. Your Soul is not of this world, your body is.

“All day I think about it, then at night I say it. Where did I come from, and what am I supposed to be doing? I have no idea. My soul is from elsewhere, I’m sure of that, and I intend to end up there.”

“When I die, I shall soar with angels, and when I die to the angels, what I shall become you cannot imagine.”

19. At the Soul level, we are all ONE.

“All religions, all this singing, one song. The differences are just illusion and vanity. The sun’s light looks a little different on this wall than it does on that wall, and a lot different on this other one, but it’s still one light.”

“What shall I say, O Muslims, I know not myself, I am neither a Christian, nor a Jew, nor a Zoroastrian, nor a Muslim.”

“I am neither of the East nor of the West, no boundaries exist within my breast.”

20. Your Soul is more precious than anything.

“You know the value of every article of merchandise, but if you don’t know the value of your own soul, it’s all foolishness.”

21. Choose your life partner wisely.

“Take someone who doesn’t keep score, who’s not looking to be richer, or afraid of losing, who has not the slightest interest even in his own personality: he’s free.”

22. Real love transcends the material plane and no matter if your bodies are apart, your souls will forever be connected.

“Goodbyes are only for those who love with their eyes. Because for those who love with heart and soul there is no such thing as separation.”

23. Raise your words, not your voice.

“Raise your words, not voice. It is rain that grows flowers, not thunder.”

24. Silence is the language of God.

“Silence is the language of God, all else is poor translation.”

“Words are a pretext. It is the inner bond that draws one person to another, not words.”

“In Silence there is eloquence. Stop weaving and see how the pattern improves.”

25. Just to be alive is not enough.

“You think you are alive because you breathe air? Shame on you, that you are alive in such a limited way. Don’t be without Love, so you won’t feel dead. Die in Love and stay alive forever.”



This article describes the experiences of being with your twin flame. It will help you understand if you have found your spiritual counterpart.

Twin souls or twin flame is a term used to describe two individuals with unique perspectives, energies, and power that attracts one another. In essence, a twin soul is literally the soul’s other half that is destined to be together and complement each other in every regard.

Those people who are lucky enough to find their other half of their souls find their lives to be significantly more rich and fulfilling.

When a twin soul is reunited in this world, they complement each other in their lives, protect and augment each other’s energies and spirituality, and move together as a unified power that can accomplish anything.

Many of us question how we could possibly know if we have found our twin flame. Although this can be quite subjective, the following are some of the commonalities most twin souls share.

Hopefully, this will help you understand if you too have found your other half.

Have You Found Your Twin Flame?

1. A Surreal Connection

Many people who have a living twin sole will have dreams or visions of that person or their energy. They probably wouldn’t have even met that person in their life, yet they will be aware of each other’s existence.

Such a connection is so strong that it transcends what we believe to be the limitation of reality. It is a unique experience that only a few fortunate souls will be able to experience.

When you finally have the pleasure of meeting your twin flame, it will feel as if you are meeting a familiar presence — a part of you that got lost somehow and its memory got distorted over time, but never really forgotten.

2. A Sense of Oneness

Your partner might become a reflection of yourself. You’ll have similar imbalances, concerns and issues, but together you complement each other’s shortcomings in a way that enhances your capacities.

Whenever you are together, the two of you give off the ultimate feeling of yin and yang and an embodiment of oneness.

You two could be of opposite genders, cultures and even religions, and yet there will be an incredible sense of unity, understanding, and oneness.

3. A Transcending Connection

A twin soul will have a special connection with you, one that is unnaturally strong and rare.

For example, you will be able to sense your twin flame’s state of mind or condition and even their emotions without any communication. You would be able to sense the sorrows experienced by your other half or their pain if they get sick.

Whenever the two of you have to part from each other, your longing for your partner will render your functioning impaired to some degree.

4. Unconditional Love and Need

Being together with your twin soul makes you feel like your life and your existence are in perfect balance. It facilitates your mental and physical states to the point that you feel stronger and more confident in your approach.

You two share a similar calling but need each other’s presence to make a difference. You feel a form of love that is slightly distinct. It is an unconditional form of love that makes you do things you would, otherwise, never do for the sake of your relationship or the happiness you two share.

5. The Resistance and Acceptance

Most people meet their twin flames when they are least expecting it, hence storming their lives. However, their strong soul-connection will eventually bring them together.

The emotions involved by the union can make one feel overwhelmed and even scared to the point of resistance or avoidance. This happens as most people don’t want to feel vulnerable and connecting on such a deep level can make even an iron-clad person feel completely naked and weak.

If one of the partners does run away, the avoidance is usually futile and most give in to the attraction of a twin flame and, eventually, reunite and commit to each other.

No matter how many times twin flames separate or break up, the mysterious forces of life tend to bring them together again and again.

13267934_1118805918181382_4394215556551631005_n6. Personal Growth

The few people, who are lucky enough to experience this, learn that being together with their spiritual counterpart makes them a better person and facilitate their growth in a way that they simply couldn’t understand before.

This growth is so significant because it is extremely rapid and transformational. The more time you and your twin flame spend together, the closer you get to achieving spiritual enlightenment or awakening. Each of you helps each other achieve a higher sense of consciousness.

Have you met your twin flame yet?


Their message of awakening, peaceful living, and expanded thinking could be exactly what you need to jump start your personal development.



By: Amanda Froelich

True Activist.

A means of expression one’s personal experience, scientific revelations, or new way of thought, books are extraordinary tools to broaden one’s perception and share new ways of thinking. Some of the most influential books that are available world-wide and share a simple, non-oppressive message follow below (in no particular order). Their message of awakening, peaceful living, and expanded thinking could be exactly what you need to jump start your personal development.

1. Autobiography of a Yogi by Paramahansa Yogananda

Autobiography of a Yogi introduces the reader to the life of Paramahansa Yogananda and his encounters with spiritual figures of both the East and West. The book begins with his childhood family life, to finding his guru, to becoming a monk and establishing his teachings of Kriya Yoga meditation. Furthermore, it describes his most famed feat, bringing yoga to the west. His extraordinary life is sure to make readers re-think what is possible and contemplate their own journey into self realization.

 2. Way of the Peaceful Warrior by Dan Millman

Way of the Peaceful Warrior is a part-fictional, part auto-biographical book based upon the early life of Dan Millman. The story tells of a chance meeting with a service station attendant who becomes a spiritual teacher to the young gymnast. The attendant, whom Millman names Socrates, becomes a kind of father figure and teaches Millman how to become a ‘peaceful warrior’.

3. A New Earth, awakening to your life’s purpose by Eckhart Tolle

In A New Earth, spiritual teacher Eckhart Tolle advocates present moment awareness and the dismantling of the ego as the path towards awakened living. His message is that “heaven” is the awakened state that will bring about “a new earth” in the outer world, the world of form.

4. Change Your Thoughts – Change Your Life by Dr. Wayne Dyer

As Wayne says, “This is a book that will forever change the way you look at your life, and the result will be that you’ll live in a new world aligned with nature.” Having reviewed hundreds of translations of the Tao Te Ching and written 81 essays on how to apply the lessons to the modern day world, the book is meant to be slowly read one day at a time. Famously quoted saying “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change”, his message is tactfully through the pages of this piece.

5. Seven Spiritual Laws of Success by Deepak Chopra

In being both a devotional tract and a prosperity manual, The Seven Spiritual Laws acknowledges that abundance in any aspect is ruled by certain spiritual laws of the universe. Drawing from Eastern thought and quantum physics, the notion is that power derives from stillness and Chopra goes beyond money to show what abundance really means.

6. You can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay

Louise’s unconditional message of love is that you deserve to be healthy, happy, and full of life. After identifying her illness (Ovarian Cancer) with her sexual abuse as a child, she created healing through mental techniques, affirmations, and the art of positive thinking. She shows how one can empower themselves out of victim-hood and heal from illness by changing their thoughts.

7. The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

A masterful synthesis of ideas from Buddhism, Christianity, Taoism, and other traditions, The Power of Now focuses on the problems one has today and the person you are at this moment. Perhaps the most practical of any self-help, success, or spiritual classic because it denies the usual tendency to imagine some bright future without ever truly coming to grips with the present, it’s an illuminating book that will pull you into the moment and awaken the truth within.

8. Celestine Prophecy by John Redfield

A first hand experience of a spiritual awakening, Celestine Prophecy discusses various psychological and spiritual ideas that are rooted in many ancient Eastern traditions, such as how opening to new possibilities can help an individual to establish a connection with the Divine. The main character of the novel undertakes a journey to find and understand a series of nine spiritual insights on an ancient manuscript in Peru, prophesied over 2,000 years ago by the ancient Mayan culture.

9. The Secret by Rhonda Byrne

The Secret shares the fundamental law of the universe, otherwise known as the Law of Attraction. Spiritual masters have proclaimed for ages “what you sow, you will reap” and “Ask and it is given”. This book (and now documentary) goes in-depth to describe how by changing your thoughts and what you visualize, you can dramatically change your life.

10. The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho

The Alchemist tells the story of a young shepherd named Santiago who is able to find a treasure beyond his wildest dreams. Along the way, he learns to listen to his heart and, more importantly, realizes his dreams, or his Personal Legend, are not just his but part of the Soul of the Universe.

If one is seeking a more enlightened direction in their personal journey, this list of life-changing reads will definitely inspire change.



False Twins

A false twin is someone whom you meet, that seems to share the same energetic blueprint as you, but are only there to serve as catalyst for their own spiritual growth.

There are many warning signs and symptoms that your twin flame is a counterfeit. But these five signs are the ultimate signature of a false twin.

1.Your energy is drained around this person.

This sign should serve as a major alarm bell going off in your head. Your real twin will rejuvenate your energy and rekindle your youth. You feel like two children playing and creating together, restoring your creative core.

A false twin make you feel emotionally drained, disoriented and tired or worried for no reason.

2. You will have a series of unlucky events that surround the your first meeting. 

Your tire goes flat on your car, you spill a cup of coffee on yourself, you break a glass, anything that happens repeatedly. These unlucky events will happen more often than usual when your false twin flame is close.

3. You feel empty without the other

Not to be confused with the runner and the chaser phase of a twin flame separation.

When engaged in a false twin relationship you will feel empty when the other is not around you. You feel as if you can’t possibly love yourself unless your twin loves you back. An incessant need to always be with your twin a longing and loneliness a lack of self-love and self-worth.

4. They are emotionally unavailable

You will feel as if you are giving everything, you are emotionally open and available, going to great lengths to make everything work. All the while your partner is cut off and aloof.

A false twin will not show any real support for your own personal triumphs and can easily be angered when you show a strong sense of your own power.

5. They are no longer in the picture

This should be the clearest sign that your twin is a false twin. After experiencing the good the bad and the ugly, they are no longer around. Out of contact without any interest in rekindling the relationship. The false twin flame has siphoned the energy needed and have moved on. You are sadly left daydreaming and obsessing over the past, without any measurable spiritual progress.

While this sign may also be present in real twin flame unions, now is the time for healing work. Emotional,psychological and spiritual.

A false twin relationship was needed, to serve you a valuable lesson and to prepare you for the meeting of your true twin flame, where you are elevated onto the path of spiritual evolution and ascension.



Karmic relationships

We form karmic ties with people we’ve known in our past lives and have some unfinished businesses or unresolved issues with. It’s a debt that one must pay to the other, and a valuable developmental lesson that the other one offers in return.

Karma does not “punish” but rather enables the soul to come back and do some corrective work in order to move on.

The soul remembers its embodied lifetimes and attachments, and will knowingly choose the souls it needs to meet again, if they have some unfinished history together. So the karmic people meet again. Often in the same family as parents, siblings and relatives, or in other close circles as partners, lovers and first marriage spouses.

In karmic relationships everything seems okay on the surface and the way it should probably be. But  it also feels like something is missing and leaves you in a constant dissatisfaction and unrest. Karmic relationships are usually secured by official documents and blood ties, so that the people were ought to tolerate each other longer, looking for solutions and not the easy way out of the node.

There is no better example of a karmic connection than an unhappy marriage. Half of the marriages fail simply because those marriages are made of two karmic people – joint debtors. The two are temporarily brought together in a codependent union, where they are triggered to start their karmic workup and eventually break free.

‘Where does love go after marriage?? Illusory ‘love’ fades away and passion subsides as soon as the karmic strings between the two untwine.

Now, parents, siblings, relatives and children stay with us for life, and those relationships may as well be far from easy or fulfilling. But as we consciously chose these people to be our family before we came here, it only takes us to realize why and what for. Usually with this realization we begin to accept our family members unconditionally, and be thankful for the settings they provided for our growth and refinement.


Soulmate is either a person you used to know in your previous incarnation and have no unresolved issues left with, or the one of similar energies that thus feels intimate and pleasant. Cosmos takes care of us so much that it sends us each a couple of thousands of potential soulmates to appear in the right periods of our lives, so that we never feel lonely. Soulmates laugh a lot and talk for hours, and it’s always effortless and energizing.

Marriage of soulmates is a happy reciprocal relation with minimal arguments and no ego issues – both feel seen and heard. Souls that love each other are always connected and often incarnate together again to meet as family members, lovers, friends or siblings for company and mutual support.

Twin Souls (or Twin Flames)

Each soul has its closest ‘soul family bundle’, and what we call a Twin Soul (or Twin Flame) is one, most prominent soul of that spectrum. But it is not literally “the other half of your soul”. In spite of the recent publicly acknowledged idea of Twin Flames existence that says ‘Twin Flame’ is your other half and is one and only, I only will say here, yes, it’s very close to truth, but there is more to the story. (I’ll be extending this idea in my coming posts).

Is Twin Flame only one for each?…

In the format of this article I will have to say, yes it is. Because One Twin Soul is what most of us will get to meet in a lifetime.

Anyhow, Twin Flames by all means go beyond Soulmates experience. The connection of these two incarnated souls is full of mystery, signs, shared dreaming, synchronicities and overwhelming feelings. From the moment they meet,Twin Flames develop a magnetic attraction to each other that is nearly supernatural  and practically impossible to withstand. Meeting a Twin Flame is a mystical experience as it often signifies a turning point in the lives of both.

So what are the Twin Flames and why is that connection so powerful?

Let’s say, a soul was once designed as a perfect unisex attire – fit-all pants and top. But once it got off the catwalk, it went for sale as two separate pieces.

You got your piece and it’s your soul.

Your Soulmates match and complement your piece beautifully. Your Karmic people are like those ‘bad choices’ that can be worn together but hardly match at all. And your Twin Flame (Twin Soul) is that one of a kind designer set that was originally made of the same fabric.

Twin Flames were at some point One soul that then divided in two to incarnate in two different people for their own developmental purposes. Twin Flames usually incarnate as male and female, but can be of the same sex as well.

Meeting your Twin Soul is a mystical occurrence,  because it doesn’t happen to a soul in every lifetime. A soul gets to meet its Twin Flame only when it’s old enough to face the Twin and handle the connection as it greatly advances both souls on their evolutionary trip.

It’s a bliss and a test at the same time, because Twin Souls usually incarnate in  two unordinary individuals that are more interested in solitude, creativity and metaphysics than in trivia, tradition and relationships. The two feel burdened in any sort of a codependent relationship and are driven by the strongest motive in their lives – self actualization and independence.  12332_683121878370100_394035762_n-e1419597628731

Sweet disaster begins when the two entities of one former soul  get to meet again…

Both carry the transcendent memory and love for each other. So they immediately ‘recognize’ and get strongly attracted to one another, feeling pleasantly weird, tongue-twisted or even having fever in each other’s presence. But together with that attraction comes denial. The two are wildly driven back together, but will nevertheless try to push each other away on early stages, or something will be keeping them apart until the time is right.

Twin Flames won’t unite easily because their purpose is not to get together in a traditional relationship, but to help each other face themselves and become the ‘wholes’ rather than ‘halves’. Even though ‘Twin Flames’ has a potentiality of an amazing romantic relationship, it’s erroneous to think of it as solely such. Twin Flames meet exclusively for internal developmental purposes.

Twin Flames are like each other’s mirrors that in an indirect way will have each other face their issues and old emotional traumas that were long buried and will now begin to stir up to the surface. Together with that, Twin Flames will help each other acquire missing elements in their personalities which they need to re-acquire in order to feel complete.

Male Twin is usually emotionally unavailable and fears closeness. And female Twin was programmed to believe that she needs a man to feel validated. So both need to gain the traits of the opposite sex in themselves in order to break free from the old hindering patterns and reach that wholeness in the Self. Male TF will have to learn to accept love and share his feelings without the fear of being smothered or seeming weak. And female TF will have to face her potential and manifest her talents in order to become completely self-reliant.

When that work is done, the two will be evolved enough to reunite in an earthly bliss for the perfect kind of a ‘relationship’ of ‘wholes’, or will find that they actually need ‘relationship’ no more… Twin Flames experience is always challenging as it requires both to face themselves, and may trigger deep emotional confusion and self-dissatisfaction. So too often one or both twins might get too overwhelmed and run away or part.

But Twin Flames always run to come back.


10 Signs You’re In The Right Relationship

Posted March 31, 2016 By Mark



Relationships can be very tricky and difficult to navigate. Sometimes you have to be  in a relationship for a long time to realize it’s not right. Sometimes you get so comfortable with unhappiness that you forget what happiness looks like, or don’t feel like you can do better.

Everything is different when you’re in the right relationship. The sun shines brighter, your smiles are bigger, simply you enjoy in your happiness. It’s good to have clear signs that you are in relationship with the right person, and it’s better to have tasks that you can work on to improve your relationship. These 10 signs shows that you are in the right relationship:


1. You spend time together in everything you enjoy.

It’s great to do what he/she likes. But it’s better to find things you both like to do together. Sometimes you need more time to spend together to really find things that you both like. If you’re doing things like working out together, mountain biking, playing some sports, and even writing together, you know that there is the right person to be with.

2. You spend time apart, doing things you enjoy.

When you’re in the right relationship, your partner understands that there are things you want to do with no one by your side. Maybe he’s a gamer, maybe she loves Pinterest. We know that we all need a time when we want to do our own things alone, and the right relationship is one in which both partners understand and appreciate that about each other.

3. You fight productively.

When you’re in the right relationship, fighting is never about winning and getting your point across. A productive fight is about understanding the other person, compromising, and respecting each other throughout the process. If you end a fight feeling like you’ve won, you’re doing it wrong.

4. You each have your own friends and share friends too.

Some people are in relationships where they only have couple friends. Others only have their own sets of friends. When you’re in the right relationship, you find balance between your social circle, your partner’s, and your shared circle. Missing any of those three elements may be a sign of concern.

5. You maintain self-identity.

You both celebrate being ‘you’. And you appreciate each other more for maintaining your self-identity. In the ‘true’ relationship both partners are nurtured to continuously improve and develop their ‘self’.

6. Your family and friends like your relationship.

One of the easiest ways to know if you’re in the right relationship is to pay attention to the feedback you get from friends and family. Assuming your friends and family want what is best for you, a lot of negative feedback is a bad sign. That doesn’t mean everyone will be enthusiastic about your relationship, but the overall sense you get should be positive.

7. You are able to disagree respectfully.

Some things you wont agree on. It happens. The right relationship isn’t about everything being perfect, but about partners maintaining a high level of respect when things don’t go perfectly. There are many relationships where the partners often disagree. But what separates our disagreements from others I’ve seen is that we do it respectfully. There are no hurt feelings, no efforts to change the other person’s mind at all costs, nothing like that. We don’t need to agree on everything. And that’s an important realization, because we definitely don’t.

8. You’re attracted to your partner’s mind, body, and spirit.

That attraction is for sure the first thing that motivated the pursuit of a relationship. But are you attracted to his mind? Are you attracted to her spirit? Is he the kind of person you could have conversations with years from now when you’re both old and wrinkly? Is she the kind of person whose joy will shine through when her face shows her age? You’re in relationship with the right person when you’re just as excited about the late night conversations as you are about what happens between the sheets.

9. You keep each other’s secrets.

Do you keep your each other secrets?  Are you diligent about protecting your partner’s privacy? This is a small, but very important sign that shows the level of respect and value you hold for your partner. You’re in the right relationship when you are impressed with how much your partner values protecting your secrets.

10. You are compatible sexually.

This probably goes without saying, but I’m going to say it anyway! You aren’t always going to be on the same level. Sometimes you’ll want more, sometimes she will. Sometimes you’ll feel adventurous, sometimes he will. But, generally speaking, you should be compatible with your sexual interests and desires, in quality, quantity, style, and all other characteristics. If you’re a 3–4 times a week kind of person and your partner considers once a week a chore, you might need to reconsider the longevity of your relationship.




Learn how to heal your spirit by identifying spiritual wounds and practicing spiritual hygiene.

As a society, we value our bodies more than our minds, and our minds more than our souls. This is apparent even in children.

Take the example of toddlers who know that they must brush their teeth twice a day, and that if they get a cut they must tend to it to avoid making it more painful.

We know how to heal our bodies. We cleanse wounds from outside and aid the healing process from within, with pharmaceuticals.

However, we do not do the same for our minds.

And though we experience psychological and emotional hurt and pain more often than physical hurt, we tend to avoid taking care of them. Are we not guilty of being unkind and unloving towards ourselves, often?

Still, many of us ‘know’ how to heal our minds. We cleanse it of excess, negative, and self-critical thoughts through meditation.

But what about our spirits? What are the wounds that we often experience and we let fester? How do we take care of them?

Spiritual Hurt that We Experience Regularly

Humans are kind by nature. This kindness stems from our inner child that wishes to openly embrace others with an undefended heart and to give freely; and, in the processes, allows us to transcend and expand our consciousness.

However, we often drown our inner voice and restrain ourselves from following its wise council. And, when we avoid it, we do experience a slight tingle of guilt, sadness, and even remorse.

For instance:

  • We see someone in need on the road, think of helping them but impulsively move along — perhaps because we’re in a hurry, think nothing of it, or hope someone else would do it instead of us
  • We committed to meet someone at a specific time, but show up late
  • When someone is angry at us, we feel anger towards that person as well
  • We hear news about suffering in the world and we suppress experiencing compassion, fearing not to be overwhelmed by it

All of us experience these feelings, in various circumstances of our lives. And, most of the time, we walk away with a sense of guilt about our response or reaction — because a part of us tells us that we did not do what was right.

This guilt and self-criticism leaves spiritual wounds, which, if left untended, harden our hearts and cloud our spiritual judgment.

Spiritual Hygiene — Methods of Healing Spiritual Hurt

The impact of spiritual hurt can appear in different forms. For instance:

  • A realization that something is holding you back whenever you yearn towards a higher experience — as if you have been ‘ticketed’, and your dues remain unpaid.
  • You may experience a sense of disengagement with your ‘self’ — a loneliness that you experience while knowing that people around you do care about you.
  • Constant thoughts about how your reactions/response could have been interpreted by the other person and may have hurt them — an ‘unresolved reassessment’ of how you have treated others.

These, among other signs, indicate that you have both a spirit that is working on higher frequencies and that your spirit is calling out for you to tend to its hurt.

How do you heal your spirit?

3 Ways of Healing the Spirit

Being kind to someone else — Kindness, compassion, and empathy rejuvenate and heal the spirit.

So, if you have missed an opportunity of being helpful and kind to someone, then make a mental note of being kind to someone else that day or that week.

Being kind to yourself — Its human to err.

However, allowing yourself to experience the hurt of others through empathy and compassioncan transform your spirit.

Being harsh on yourself for not being able to respond to the needs of others is damaging to your spirit. You must be kind and generous to yourself as well.

This means forgiving yourself with the same compassion as you would forgive others.

Pray — Healing the spirit is not only about connecting with yourself but also with the Abundance that the universe has to offer and seek positivity within yourself.



Love! Oh dear oh my oh my…I think we will all agree, romantic love is one of the most powerful experiences a human being can have. When we fall in love, we are at the whim of forces far beyond our control: dynamic, ancient, and mysterious…dun dun dun…

My experiences of love relationships have profoundly shaped who I am and how I experience other people. I’ve been in and out of all kinds of relationships, and they are all different and strangely similar…short term, long term, marriage, polyamory, flings, long distance, on again off again, co-dependent, interdependent… And perhaps the most important thing I’ve learned is that a person is NOT the relationship you have with them! They are a dynamic being, changeable, at once perfect and faulty, and very importantly….as am I…

In this day, and in the Conscious Communities I’ve been part of, there are powerful concepts around what a relationship is, and how men and women should be together. In this day and age Tantric Practices, the Divine Feminine and Masculine Paradigm, and Spirituality in general are highly likely be important elements of conscious relationships. These practices, by their very nature, trigger change and transform.

Transformation is challenging

People who consider themselves part of the Conscious Community (myself included), in my experience, can be going through transformation processes and periods of deep personal growth on a reasonably regular basis. In transformation, we experience new energies, ideas, and parts of ourselves. This can have a huge influence on the way we experience Love. This can be confusing, exciting, painful, enlightening, scary, or all of the above. In my life this has brought all sorts of blessings (the light) and wrecked all sorts of havoc (the shadow)…

So for me, remembering these things, ladies and gentlemen, is the secret to Staying Conscious in Love!:

Let go of the concept of a relationship

As with all things in this world, the Concept of a Thing is not the Thing itself. If we want to live a more conscious and liberated life, we need to realize that the truth is not in the mind, and its NOT in the past or the mainstream media! My concept of how things will be in relationships has historically been spectacularly wrong. I hereby admit I am and have been a Love-Sick Fool. However, as time goes on I have slowly grown to understand more about myself and others through Love, in ways that I could not have imagined…

I’ve done this be practicing accepting that there is no ‘right way’ to have a relationship, because we are all different and changing. And also very importantly, each person in the relationship experiences the relationship differently. This is to say that they are each in a different relationship in their mind! No wonder its confusing! 

By staying present to the situation at hand, with the person whom I love, helps me to be real and open about what is happening for me, without distraction from illusions.

Letting go of the concept of the other person(s) frees them

I have in the past been made painfully aware of the power of projection in relationships. In a past relationship, both my partner and I were going through really tough times related to mental and physical health, which put huge pressure on the relationship. As such I blamed the relationship for my problems, which led to resentment and feeling trapped. One thing I’m deeply sad about is the times that this dynamic stopped me from seeing the other person. I had built up in my mind an idea of this person as being the source of the trouble, but in actual fact, they were truly being a good friend to me, as best they could, given all the stuff going on in their life. The shadow in relationships can fly around and obscure the truth, and the other person. Indeed in my life, the unconscious shadow has been the major cause of dysfunction:

“Everyone carries a shadow” Gustav Jung wrote, “and the less it is embodied in the individual’s conscious life, the blacker and denser it is”. He stated the shadow to be the unknown dark side of the personality. According to Jung, the shadow, in being instinctive and irrational, is prone topsychological projection, in which a perceived personal inferiority is recognized as a perceived moral deficiency in someone else. Jung writes that if these projections remain hidden, “The projection-making factor (the Shadow archetype) then has a free hand and can realize its object (target)–if it has one–or bring about some other situation characteristic of its power.”

A person is not a relationship, a person is a person.

Seeing the truth means letting go of the concept of myself

So I need to be aware of the Shadow! To bring it into the Light! In my experience as a therapist and an artist, revealing the shadow, in a safe controlled environment, has led to an incredible deepening of my understanding of myself. Likewise and by extension, my understanding of the other person(s). We aredark and light! we are primal, powerful, mysterious! You are changing! I am changing! We are changing together! Part of this process is that the shadow will come up, it will respond to the shift. At this time it is crucial to not make the shadow the enemy. This only sends that part of life further into hiding…If we want to be conscious, we must use our spiritual power to destroy the illusion that obscures our deeper selves. We need to do this while being gentle with ourselves and others.

In self acceptance we find that we are free to be what ever we are…

What is your truth?

How can we come to value and honor the shadow aspect?

In my experience, working on my shadow aspect has made me more conscious, and helped me to understand more of the depth of what it really means to be me. We need to take time for ourselves to give ourselves the attention we deserve.

Ultimately, these 3 important things have helped me transform the shadow:

1 . Trust the Bigger Process I’ve had to be patient! Stuff that was hidden in me wasn’t used to being seen, it took a long time between knowing there was things hidden, and those parts of me coming to light.

2. Ask for Help In times past, I have soldiered on in all kinds of phases of trying to be strong, trying to be the idea of some ‘divine manifestation’ of myself. I’ve risen and fallen and risen again, and changed so much. The times which I let down my guard, asked for or accepted help, taught me so much about love. I believe we need to connect regularly with people who can really hear us, and honor our lightand dark sides. Importantly, when this help has come from a friend, a mentor or a healer, it hastaken pressure off the relationship.  We cannot be everything for each-other, no matter how much Divine Feminine and Masculine we are channeling ;).

3. Respond Creatively Journal your experiences! Look at your feelings by expressing them through words or art. Learn about yourself and your hidden self through creativity. Creative expression is so often marred by expectations and pressures to perform or produce. The truth is however, that the tools of expression have been so powerfully important to my process that I cannot imagine life without them. Indeed, expressing one’s story through creative process is one of the great joys of being alive, at once empowering, revealing, and liberating.

In this way, I have come to accept my Shadow through creative expression. Once I see the truth inside me by making art, I can let it go…the creative process moves the energy, freeing me up for the next step. Importantly, it means I can deal with my Shadow without putting pressure on the relationship.

4. Embrace the Hidden Integration means moving towards integrity. As I have moved through life, sharing my truth and hearing the truths of others has been essential for happiness. It gives meaning, allows access to deeper personal resources and ultimately has helped me to likewiseTransform the Shadow in Relationships.

“The truth is in there” ?

We have  the ability to see and transform the shadow, gently and honestly, accessing the deep resources within. This process for me has been precious, essential to happiness, and ultimately enriches my relationships with people and the wider cosmic playground of life. It is a Journey!  Mutual-love


Mental Health — Can Yoga Improve It?

Posted March 28, 2016 By Mark



Beside the benefits we know yoga has on the physical aspect of our body, there has been some significant proof that yoga can also improve our mental health.

Many yoga practitioners report significant benefits on what we call “mental health.”

One way of understanding this is, whether is exercising in general or yoga in particular, if we put our bodies to work, this will have a positive impact to our physical and mental health.

Simply put, you will experience a calmer, clearer and stress-free mind — and that is becausethe mind and the body are not separate.

If we do something to the body, it will affect the way the mind works. Consequently, if we do something that benefits the body, the mind will experience the benefits as well.

But it’s important to say that there are limits to that.

Yoga for the body, benefit your mind (physical health = mental health)

Yoga does not only benefit the mind, whilst you work with the body — it is a multi dimensional approach.

Firstly, while you work on the body and experience all the physical benefits of yoga, your mental health improves as a consequence and, as your mental health improves, your body will experience the benefits as well.

Working directly on the mind with yoga is largely done through meditation techniques. And the breathing technique is the link between the two.

Many different types of yoga can have mental benefits. If you are curious to know what type of yoga is going to be the most beneficial for mental health, then we will have to look at something that has a comprehensive approach.

It has to include techniques that work on the body (yoga postures), as well as techniques that work on the breathing and on the mind (different types of meditation techniques).

As a result, at the end of a yoga session, the participants are left with an amazing feeling of peace and well-being, and that is precisely why they keep going back for more.

Does yoga bring about the change you are looking for in your life?

Mental health is not necessarily a diagnosis for a mental disorder, but a sharp mind that functions at its full capacity.

Depression and anxiety are very real and a growing concern in the modern world. Yoga is a methodology and a system that not only brings benefits in terms of physical health, but also mental health.

Hence, those suffering from depression or anxiety should consider yoga and meditation, before staring on the path of pharmaceuticals.

Happiness is another word that we can use to describe mental health.

The Power of a Personal Yoga practice

The way that yoga really works best, is when we develop a personal practice, one that fits our style in that particular period of our lives.

This way, we will basically take advantage from both the general and the particular yoga benefits. The particular one is going to have a more potent effect on us.

So, a personal practice addresses an individual need. To have a suitable personal practice, a far more powerful way would be having a teacher. A teacher who will help you develop a suitable, personal practice just for you.