February 2012 Archive


Posted February 14, 2012 By Mark

“A man who fears suffering, is already suffering from what he fears.”

Michel de Montaigne wrote of his condition tha...

~Michel de Montaigne

Suffering, the mere word puts us on edge.  It is definitely not a state of being that we care to experience, yet it is necessary in order to elevate our consciousness and bring life changing wisdom to our psyche.  While we cannot hope to escape suffering all together, many of us put ourselves in a perpetual state of suffering simply by actions we choose.  We voluntarily suffer on a regular even daily basis because of key factors that go unexamined in our lives.  As you might suspect, these factors are unreasonable and can absolutely be controlled if not eliminated.

There are 5 reasons why we suffer.

The first is not knowing who you are.  If you have not taken time to examine what you hold dear, what you value, what you love and what your dreams are, you will not have any idea of where you stand in life.  What drives you, what excites you, how can you be of service to others, these are the defining principals of who you are.

Second reason is clinging to what is not permanent, transient things.  Material things, momentary fun, good times, these are simply elements in life to help bring a measure of pleasure.  When you use these things as a manner of feeling fulfilled, you run into trouble.  They are passing elements that have no permanence and no ability to instill true happiness. Happiness comes from within, not without.

Third, fear of what is not permanent.  Change, such a frightening concept for us.  Some of us live in fear that what we have or are experiencing will change.  We dread continuance, we feel apprehension because we have to “start over”.  The funny thing is we even feel that way if the situation is not a good one.  Just the idea of change is frightening even if it is for the best.  Change is a necessary part of life.  Learning to embrace it as a way to continue hope, learn new things and afford ourselves new opportunities that will in turn enhance our lives is and should be a desired position.  What does not change and stays the same will eventually die.

Fourth reason we suffer is because of our ego.  Many of us do not realize that most of what we believe and cling to is because of our ego. Ego is so destructive because its sole reason for being is to feed itself, hence it makes you cling onto things, whether good or bad so it can feel in control.  EGO DOES NOT RATIONALIZE!  It is my own personal opinion that ego is what most refer to as the devil.  That voice that tells you to act with no thought of others but yourself.  When you act on ego, it is so me centered that it leaves you feeling empty and even guilty especially if you have a higher knowledge.  Ego excludes, it never includes.

Finally, there is the fear of death.  This fear can be a preoccupation for a lot of people.  I recently had a couple of deaths of very close family members that shook me to the core.  What I realized is I was not so much upset that the person was not her as I was at what was left undone and the children and loved ones they left behind.  Death is a part of life and frankly because there is death is precisely why life is so precious and such an amazing gift.  Fearing the inevitable is truly a waste, but seizing every moment to make the precious memories with the ones we love is the cure.  They always live in our hearts and the love we have for them NEVER dies!  Because of that they live on.

If any of these fit you, its time to work on a resolution.  2012 holds so much promise mainly of success and happiness.  As we know happiness is something you feel within and must seek within, so it stands to reason if you are able to tackle what ever your fear is, you will unlock the door to your happiest being ever!

Emotional honesty

Posted February 14, 2012 By Mark

We wear a mask that grins and lies
It hides our cheeks and shades our eyes
This debt we pay to human guile
With torn and bleeding hearts we smile


Emotional honesty means expressing your true feelings. To be emotionally honest we must first be emotionally aware. This emotional awareness is related to our emotional intelligence. It is our emotional intelligence, combined with the necessary learning, practice and experience, which gives us the ability to accurately identify our feelings.

A black child, Chicago. - NARA - 556138

Emotional intelligence may also give us the ability to decide when it is in our best interest to be emotionally honest by sharing our real feelings. There are times when it is not healthy or safe for us to be emotionally honest. In general though, I believe we would be better off individually and as a society if we would be more emotionally honest.

If we are more emotionally honest with ourselves we will get to know our “true selves” on a deeper level. This could help us become more self-accepting. It could also helps us make better choices about how to spend out time and who to spend it with.

If we are emotionally honest with others, it may encourage them to be more emotionally honest. When we are emotionally honest we are more likely not to be asked or pressured to do things which we do not want to do. We will also find out sooner who respects our feelings.

Children start out emotionally honest. They express their true feelings freely and spontaneously. But the training to be emotionally dishonest begins at an early age. Parents and teachers frequently encourage or even demand that children speak or act in ways which are inconsistent with the child’s true feelings. The child is told to smile when actually she is sad. She is told to apologize when she feels no regret. She is told to say “thank you,” when she feels no appreciation. She is told to “stop complaining” when she feels mistreated. She may be told to kiss people good night when she would never do so voluntarily. She may be told it is “rude” and “selfish” to protest being forced to act in ways which go against her feelings.

Also, children are told they can’t use certain words to express themselves. I have seen more than one parent tell their child not to use the word “hate,” for example. And of course, the use of profanity to express one’s feelings is often punished, sometimes harshly. In some cases the parent never allows the children to explain why they feel so strongly.

As children become adolescents they begin to think more for themselves. They begin to speak out more, “talk back” more and challenge the adults around them. If these adults feel threatened they are likely to defend themselves by invalidating the adolescent‘s feelings and perceptions. There is also peer pressure to conform to the group norms.

Through all of this the child and adolescent learns they can’t be honest with their feelings. They gradually stop being emotionally honest with their parents, their teachers, their friends and even themselves. They learn it just doesn’t pay to express one’s true feelings.

The system is our enemy

Posted February 14, 2012 By Mark

“The Matrix is a system, Neo. That system is our enemy. But when you’re inside, you look around, what do you see? Businessmen, teachers, lawyers, carpenters. The very minds of the people we are trying to save. But until we do, these people are still a part of that system, and that makes them our enemy. You have to understand, most of these people are not ready to be unplugged. And many of them are so inured, so hopelessly dependent on the system, that they will fight to protect it.”

Use the tools you have

Posted February 12, 2012 By Mark

You could have the best tools in the world, but if you never pick them up and use them, your life will never change. On the other hand, just a little bit of attention each day can and will bring miracles in your life.

Child of the Creator

Posted February 11, 2012 By Mark
As a child of the Creator you deserve nothing less than greatness! Examine your life. Where are you settling for less than you deserve? In those areas where you settle you will feel a sadness, you will feel unfulfilled. Not until you step into your power and recognize your greatness will you truly feel satisfied. Live your truth. Settle for nothing less than beauty, joy and abundance in every area of your life, for that is your birthright!

Your purpose

Posted February 11, 2012 By Mark

If life does indeed have purpose, then this means your mission in life is not yet over… because you’re NOT DEAD! You WOKE UP THIS MORNING! So guess what, Mousekateers? There must be things left for you here to do. It means that no matter how many dirty tricks, rotten licks and low down kicks you have taken in your life, no matter how much drama, abuse, or terror you’ve endured, GET OVER IT! Because it made you who you ARE. And WHO and WHAT you are has placed you at the just the right point in time, in the exact right moment of history to become legendary!

Treat her well

Posted February 2, 2012 By Mark

“You may not be her first, her last, or her only. She loved before she may love again. But if she loves you now, what else matters? She’s not perfect – you aren’t either, and the two of you may never be perfect together but if she can make you laugh, cause you to think twice, and admit to being human and making mistakes, hold onto her and give her the most you can. She may not be thinking about you every second of the day, but she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break – her heart. So don’t hurt her, don’t change her, don’t analyze and don’t expect more than she can give. Smile when she makes you happy, let her know when she makes you mad, and miss her when she’s not there.” – Bob Marley