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You see, trust in marriage can always be built and made stronger over time. Even after trust has been broken, it can be rebuilt using these two proven steps: transparency and effective communication, even when it may be difficult.

As you already know, trust is extremely vital for your marriage to thrive and be fulfilling. It’s also the most important thing that makes pursuing any relationship worthwhile.

In fact, trust is the glue that holds a healthy marriage together because, without it, a great relationship can’t exist.

That’s why we want to show you the two most important and effective steps required for building, or rebuilding, trust with your spouse.

Now, think about this:

Can your marriage survive without trust? 

Is it even possible to have a healthy marriage without the complete trust of your spouse?

As you can see, trusting your spouse is key to a happy, healthy, and fulfilling marriage. From our experience, it is impossible for married couples to have a “real” marriage or relationship without that complete trust.

By “real” relationship, we mean a fulfilling and healthy marriage.

The well-known causes of trust issues in marriages

When it comes to trust issues in marriages, the most common cause is one or a combination of the following:

Extra-marital sex

Lying

 Financial infidelity

Emotional affairs

Constant contact with an ex

Insecurities

That being said, the presence of trust issues certainly plays a big role in many unhappy and unhealthy marriages.

Most importantly, trust issues such as infidelity can result in lifelong consequential effects on your kids, spouse, family, and self-image.

Building and maintaining complete trust in your marriage should be a top priority!

Why complete trust in marriage is so important

Building complete trust with each other is one of the best things we’ve done to build a strong foundation for our marriage.

As a result of building complete trust in our marriage, we’ve been able to talk about anything and be heard.

Also, the freedom to express yourself makes you feel secure. It also creates a peaceful home environment.

In other words, being able to trust your husband or wife provides you with comfort. It reduces stress, insecurity, and worries about your husband or wife not being transparent with you about everything.

Unfortunately, having no trust in your marriage means your marriage could end in a separation or divorce very quickly.

The lack of trust could also lead to an unhappy life with a roommate (your spouse).

Trust also impacts all forms of intimacy

Whether it’s emotional, intellectual, or sexual intimacy, trust plays a big role in how satisfied you and your spouse will be.

In marriage, we have the opportunity to have the most intimate relationship with another human being; our spouse.

For you and your spouse to be so closely connected, you must feel comfortable enough to bare your souls to each other.

Dr. Henry Cloud puts it this way, “Intimacy comes from “knowing” the other person at a deep level. If there are barriers to honesty, knowing is ruled out and the false takes over.” (Boundaries in Marriage).

In order for us to feel safe enough to bare our souls to each other, to be naked not just in a physical, but an emotional way with our spouse, you must be able to trust them.

Again, Dr. Cloud puts it this way, “True intimacy is the closest thing to heaven we can know.

Trust is one of the best perks we can have through our marriage. Truly knowing someone, having them know you, being truly loved and accepted for who you are, is truly mind-blowing.

The first step on how to build trust in your marriage

Building trust in a marriage does not happen overnight. It takes TIME.

Building trust requires effort, especially if either you and/or your spouse have trust issues from past relationships, or marriage(s). There is an easier way to make complete trust a reality in your marriage.

Start by being transparent and completely honest with your spouse.

Communicate truthfully. STOP the petty lies. Don’t fudge anything.

Tell your spouse when you overspend on an item in your monthly budget. Tell your spouse, when you have entertained thoughts about being with another person, or are tempted to cheat. (How do you and your spouse define cheating for your marriage?)

Again, tell your spouse when you are hurt by his/her words and actions, but also be ready to take responsibility for your own emotions. When you forget and didn’t do something you said you would do, be honest about it with your spouse.

Sincere and honest communication won’t be easy all the time. But do it anyway because the end result is worth it!

Honest communication is a simple, yet effective concept. Because the more you establish trust through transparency, the more you will become completely open, feel connected to your spouse, and strengthen trust in your marriage.

Can one little “white lie” really do any harm to your marriage?

Why must I tell my spouse so much? Our answer is simple.

As you strengthen trust between you both, the need for such detailed transparency will lessen over time.

When building, or rebuilding trust in your marriage, you each need to see that the other is being honest and is trustworthy all the time.

From our experience, being consistently open about the little things makes it easier, to be honest about the bigger things that come up in life. Practicing this creates a transparent and honest communication environment in your marriage.

In other words, trust is built through consistency.

Lies or not telling your spouse the truth, because what they don’t know won’t hurt them, simply erodes the basic foundation of your marriage (trust).

In addition, you will find it difficult to be transparent and as a result, being truly intimate on a deeper level with your spouse will not be possible.

“Deception damages a relationship. The act of lying is much more damaging than the things that are being lied about because lying undermines the knowing of one another and the connection itself.”

“Deception is the one thing that cannot be worked through because it denies the problem.” – Dr. Henry Cloud.

The second step in building trust in your marriage

Needless to say, if the first step in building trust is transparency, naturally, the second step will be… effective communication. It’s one of the most important marriage skills that will get you closer to building trust with your spouse.

Effective communication will also help you to communicate without fighting, feel heard, and be able to learn how to empathetically listen to your spouse.

Once you learn how to communicate with your spouse it will become easier to approach or talk to your spouse about anything. For example, you will be able to have deeper conversations, which is the key to intellectual intimacy.

Effective communication is the path that will help you build trust with your spouse. In addition, communicating effectively brings you together, helps you to connect with each other, and makes being honest easier.

Simply because you will be talking to your best friend. The person you have decided to commit the rest of your life to and established an intimate relationship with.

And here’s the best part:

When you completely trust your spouse, sex is better, more passionate, free and satisfying. 😉

You need to be honest with your spouse!

And your wife or husband needs to be honest with you too, even when it hurts.

Take the first steps to establish trust by communicating to your spouse that you need to be honest with each other from now on.

We had a few incidences in our first year of marriage where complete honesty was not present. We hurt each other in the process unintentionally.

But we worked through this by communicating truthfully; explaining that it wasn’t okay. We wouldn’t accept being dishonest in our marriage, forgave each other and made sure to not make the same mistakes again (lining up our actions with our words).

Did we mess up again?

Yes.

It happens to all of us. We are not perfect and never will be. All we can do is strive to be better every day, learn from our mistakes, and move on.

We messed up again. But now, we can say we completely trust each other after implementing the 2 proven steps we mentioned above consistently.

By communicating effectively with each other, we came up with a plan that helped us to survive our first year of marriage.

As you know, part of the reasons why we started this website is to help other married couples avoid the same mistakes we did. Learn from our mistakes to avoid the pain!

The biggest reasons that make rebuilding trust in marriage hard

First, it took you a lot of time, experiences, and reflections to trust your then boyfriend/girlfriend, now spouse. So much so you decided to get engaged and later chose to marry him or her out of the billions of human beings in this world.

Second, because trust is built over time, it hurts so much more when its broken by the person you love the most.

The person you have committed to spend the rest of your life with.

Lastly, as humans, it’s very difficult for us to forget the emotional pains we experience, which makes it more difficult for us to rebuild trust once it’s broken.

And depending on what caused the trust to be broken, it could take anywhere from a few weeks to more than a year to rebuild trust in a marriage.

How to rebuild trust in a marriage

Although rebuilding trust in a marriage after lying is not easy, trust can be rebuilt again after it has been broken.

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It will take time. And sometimes even years to regain complete trust in your marriage.

But how do you rebuild and restore trust with your husband or wife? What do you do when trust is broken?

Well, in addition to the two important steps we mentioned above (transparency and effective communication), below are 18 tips you can implement immediately.

Pick the most relevant tip(s) and start practicing it today.

18 Tips to help you regain, restore, or rebuild trust in your marriage

1. Ask your spouse what you can do to earn back their trust.

2. Promise yourself, and each other that you will be truthful and honest even if it hurts.

3. Share your secrets especially the pains and struggles you go through every day.

4. Learn to fight fair in a healthy way.

5. Stop the lying. It will only make things worse.

6. Be aware of the damages caused, accept your wrongdoings and be responsible.

7. Keep your promises.

8. Listen and pay attention to your spouse.

9. Take the blame-game away.

10. Give your spouse an opportunity to earn your trust.

11. Trust in marriage is mutual. It takes two to make it happen. So, make sure your spouse is on board.

12. Be yourself and be real.

13. Be open to counseling or seeing a marriage coach if need be.

14. Forgive your spouse.

15. Develop a plan of action and execute it.

16. Accept that it will take time and patience.

17. Show your spouse you love and appreciate them.

18. Set boundaries in your marriage to prevent a repeat of the same trust issues that caused the trust to be broken and betrayed.

If your spouse is willing to trust you again, you can always earn his/her trust back. The difficult part is when your spouse doesn’t want to trust you again because of one or multiple betrayals.

In that case, you will both have to talk about what your marriage will look like without trust. It will be a difficult conversation, but one to have sooner, rather than later.

Marriage workshop for building, rebuilding and restoring trust in marriage.

If you are looking for more ways to rebuild trust in your marriage, check out Trust Me! Restore, Renew & Rebuild Your Foundation.

Trust Me! is an online marriage workshop that will help you to build, rebuild, and strengthen trust in your marriage. You can even save your marriage and bring back trust by applying what you learn from this marriage workshop.

Click here to access Trust Me! Restore, Renew & Rebuild Your Foundation

If you prefer to read, try reading some of the best marriage books.

A great one to check out about trust is Healing Your Marriage When Trust Is Broken by Cindy Beall. This book will help you rebuild trust in your marriage.

Your spouse has the best intentions for you

After getting married, the two become one. Your trust for each other must benurtured and protected continually. Never entertain distrust in your marriage.

Always be honest and sincere with your spouse. If you are unwilling to trust your spouse, what are your reasons? What is stopping you?

Whatever your reasons are, don’t be afraid to share them with your spouse. So you can resolve them as soon as possible.

If you need more help, always seek the help of a marriage counselor or coach.

Final thoughts

It’s very very hard to rebuild trust in marriage. Infact, it takes years to build trust with someone so respect and honor the trust your spouse has for you.

Never take it for granted.

Now, if you’re trying to build, strengthen, or rebuild trust with your spouse, practice what you have learned today. And you will be on your way to building complete trust with your spouse.

“A marriage without trust is like a car without gas, you can stay in it as long as you want but it won’t go anywhere.” Unknown

Your turn

Do you trust your spouse completely?

How do you deal with mistrust issues in your marriage?

What are some other ways for rebuilding trust in marriage?

 

Gratitude is expressed to https://ourpeacefulfamily.com/trust-in-marriage-how-to-build-rebuild-restore-spouse-wife-husband/

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Finding real love and experiencing genuine emotions is something really rare nowadays.  It’s an incredible event that has the power to change your life.  A sensation that will make you understand things you haven’t even realized before.

It’s something that is worth waiting for.  Something that should never be compromised.  Love is an emotion that needs to be experienced fully.  In all its extents, in all its forms is all its realms.  Because only then will we be able to truly understand the meaning of our existence.

In the meantime, know your worth and never settle for something less than you deserve.  Be alone if you have to, but wait for the real things.  Choose to be with a person who genuinely cares about making you happy.

1 – CHOOSE TO BE WITH SOMEONE WHO CAN’T STAND TO BE APART FROM YOU

Find a person who never wants to leave you.  Someone who would enjoy being beside you every step of the way.  Someone who wouldn’t stand not seeing you even for one day.

The person who truly loves you would enjoy seeing you every hour, every minute, every second of the day.

2 – STAY SINGLE UNTIL YOU FIND SOMEONE WHO ALWAYS CALLS TO CHECK ON YOU

Don’t settle for a person who can’t find time to see you.  Don’t settle for the inconsiderate guy who plays his childish games with you and avoids expressing his real emotions.

Stay single if you need, but wait for the right person who will show you that love knows no limits.

3 – CHOOSE TO BE WITH SOMEONE WHO IS NOT AFRAID TO EXPRESS THEIR DEEPEST EMOTIONS

Love is something that should be experienced fully.  It is an emotion that should consume our soul and help us experience the sublime sensation of freedom.

If a person cannot bother to undress their soul in front of you and reveal their deepest secrets and flaws, that’s not love.

4 – BE WITH SOMEONE WHO MAKES YOU FEEL THINGS YOU’VE NEVER FELT BEFORE

Choose to wait for the real one.  Because when he comes, you’ll feel it.  You’ll feel burning sensation inside your fragile heart.  The butterflies in your stomach will go crazy.  Your eyes will glisten the way they never did before.  Your smile will shine brighter than ever.

When it is right, you’ll feel it in your gut.

5 – STAY SINGLE UNTIL YOU FIND SOMEONE WHO FULLY EMBRACES AND LOVES YOUR FLAWS

More importantly, never settle for someone who can’t embrace you for your individuality.  Don’t settle for a person who can’t accept your flaws and constantly tries to mold you into something they need.

Stay single until you meet the love of your life who will fully accept you for who you truly are.

6 – CHOOSE TO BE WITH A PERSON WHO CAN’T IMAGINE HIS LIFE WITHOUT YOU

If you want to feel genuine love and uncensored, raw emotions don’t settle for someone who likes to believe that “there are plenty of fishes in the sea”.

Instead, save your heart for a person who wouldn’t want to imagine his life without you in it.  Choose to be with someone who would love imagining his future with only you.

7 – BE WITH SOMEONE WHO IS PROUD TO HAVE YOU

Be with the guy who won’t be afraid to embrace you with all of your achievement and glory.  Choose to settle for a man who will cheer for you every step of the way, someone who will celebrate your success, not despise it.

Life is short for waisting on all the wrong people.

8 – STAY SINGLE UNTIL YOU FIND A PERSON WHO PROVES TO YOU THAT TRUE LOVE EXISTS

Most importantly, don’t settle for less that you truly deserve until you find a man who will do anything to prove to you that love exists and can be found in the most unusual places.

Stay single until you find this person, guard your soul, nurture your heart and choose to be with the one who will show you what love really means.

PS.  Once you find such a man – never let go cherish him as he will cherish you.  Together as a couple you will meet the challenges and joys of life.

 

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In Service Of The Heart

Posted October 8, 2018 By Mark

In Service Of The Heart

If I spent some time every day connecting to my heart
If I spent some time every day connecting to the stillness there
If I spent some time every day connecting to the peace there
If I spent some time every day connecting to the love there
If I spent some time every day connecting to the Mystery there
If I spent some time every day connecting to myself there
I might live with a little more kindness
I might live with a little more gentleness
I might live with a little more compassion
I might live with a little more gratitude
I might live with a little more peace
I might live with a little more caring
I might live with a little more connection
I might live with a little more awareness
I might live with a little more softness
I might see you in me
I might see your journey beside mine
You on your path through life
Me on mine
And I might ask
Can I share a moment with you
That may be a word, a touch, a breath, a look
From my heart
That simply says
I see you
Can I take a moment to wonder at the world
A flower, a tree, a cloud, the sky
And be a part of it
And breathe thanks
Can I soften my grasp on acquiring
And consider creating
And grow the understanding that there is enough
Can I take a moment to go within
And heal my hurts
That I may be whole to share myself
With life
And teach my children so
And can I sit with you, my love
Your hand in mine
And know, simply know
That your heart beats with mine
Beats with the tides
Beats with the breeze
Beats with the rising sun
Beats with life
Beats with love.

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These days there are much more single moms than in the past, and it seems like it is generally believed that a woman is capable of raising a child, particularly a daughter, on her own. But, studies done in the recent years show that this couldn’t be farther from the truth.  Not only do girls benefit a lot from having their father with them, but having a father around is critical for their emotional development.

WHY DADS MATTER EMOTIONALLY

A study published in the Journal of Family Psychology has found that daughters who have great relationships with their fathers are at lower risk of developing depression and anxiety and are better at handing stress.  In addition, they are more comfortable talking about their emotions and this allows them to be prepared for fulfilling relationships later on.

Thinks like relationships, sexuality, values, and self-image are additional things that fathers shape for their daughters. When a dad forms a healthy relationship with his daughter, he basically helps her create a positive self-image and boosts her self-confidence.

WHY DADS MATTER PRACTICALLY

Not only do dads have a tremendous impact emotionally, they also have a huge impact on the financial and physical health of their daughters. A study done by Rutgers has shown that girls that have a father who is involved all the time from the very beginning are more likely to have enough to eat. They are physically healthier compared to those who have absent or uninvolved fathers, too.

Fathers also help provide financial stability, which combined with emotional and physical health allows them to be more successful and more financially stable.

INVOLVED FROM THE BEGINNING

Fathers who are involved from the very beginning and whose bond is stronger are able to reap and provide all the benefits mentioned above. Earlier involvement is relatively new concepts, given that about seven decades ago fathers couldn’t even be present in the room when their daughters were born.

These days, there are more opportunities for men to be involved from the very beginning.  They can feed their girls using formula, rock them to sleep, change their diapers and many more, which allows them to build a special bond from the start.

INFLUENCE OF MEDIA

Despite the greater opportunities for early involvement, there are negative effects from the media that men find hard to overcome. For instance, fathers are portrayed as idiots who are completely unaware of women and their needs.  But, it is important for men to look at these poor portrayals as something insignificant and recognize them as stereotypes which shouldn’t be followed.

ROLE OF MOMS

While having a dad around is of utmost importance, this s not to diminish the role of mothers. Mothers provide valuable advice about what it means to be a successful woman and are the ones that provide their daughters with information on puberty, menstruation, and so on.

Sources:

https://www.peacequarters.com/fathers-have-more-influence-in-a-daughters-lives-than-mothers-studies-show/

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We are living in the 21st century where everything is done in a hurry. It seems like everyone around us is in a rush, trying to do his daily tasks. Living like this most of us usually forget about the importance of spending time with our family. No matter how busy we are we should always find some time for our parents, grandparents and other relatives.

Having a good relationship with family members is good for our mental health and it makes us feel more confident since we know that there is always someone that cares for us. But this is not the only reason why you should visit your parents and grandparents more often.  Some studies that have been conducted recently showed that leaving lonely life can lead to a development of many diseases and cause an early death. We all know that happy people live longer since their mood influences the work of the vital organs.  Leaving lonely life makes people numb and they seem to lose interest in many things as a result of this they find it hard to do the daily tasks and they often go through the day sitting on the sofa and watching television.

This is especially important for older people who don’t go to work and spent most of their time at home, waiting for their children and grandchildren to visit them. It seems that this visit is the biggest joy in their lives. One study in which the participants were people in their sixties proved that older people are more likely to get ill and even die when they feel lonely.

Having a Good Relationship with Your Mom & Dad Is Good for You

Researches have been curious about the relationship between a mother/father and a child and its impact on the child`s life. So, they conducted studies that included fifth and sixth graders and concluded that children who had a good relationship with their mothers & fathers were more accepted by the other students, had more friends, lead a better conversation, were less critical and felt less lonely than the children who had an insecure relationship with their mothers.

However, this doesn’t mean that you should always have a good relationship, we all have quarrels from time to time. But it is important that you have positive interactions and happy moments with your parents because they have a positive impact on your personality.

On the other side, studies about the relationship between parents and their grown-up kids showed that when they have a negative relationship their encounters could lead to stress and irritation. This is why we should all give our best to make a pleasant atmosphere full with good vibes. When people have a great time on the family encounters they can`t wait for the next time when they will see each other.

Here Are Some Tips How to Put Your Family First:
  • Live in a smaller city where people know the importance of spending time with their family and spend holidays away.
  • When you are together at home don’t watch TV, instead turn it off and have a meaningful conversation.
  • Cook a dinner or lunch and gather the whole family together.
  • Order a take-out meal and enjoy with your relatives
  • Organize your time. Make a balance between life and work.
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When You Love Someone, You Stay Loyal To Them

Posted September 20, 2018 By Mark

When you genuinely love someone, you don’t hide your phone from them and text secretly as you are worried about what they might see on the screen.  You don’t use fake names for your contacts nor delete messages so they cannot find anything.  You don’t answer calls late in the night and lie about the person calling you.

When you love someone, you don’t even consider downloading Tinder or similar apps to flip through your options or see how many matches you will get to boost your confidence.  You don’t even think about flirting with others, even if it is completely harmless.

When you love someone, you don’t act like you are single. You don’t give your phone number to people who are obviously interested in you. You don’t act in a way which suggests that you are available.

When you love someone, you don’t lose self-control! You don’t indulge in alcohol and use it as an excuse for cheating or flirting.  You don’t communicate with your exes and look at them as a backup when your relationship comes to an end. You don’t give others a chance, although you are already in a relationship.

When you love someone, you don’t go to your ex whenever you have a tiny argument. You don’t jump in bed with the first person only because you are angry.  You don’t destroy a serious relationship built on faith and trust for a night of distraction.

When you truly love someone, you don’t make them jealous by flirting with others, even if it is harmless and done only to see their reaction.  You don’t call them weird or crazy for getting angry when you stare at others.

When you love someone, you don’t even consider cheating on your partner as an option, whether it is physical or emotional, in big ways or trivial ways.  You don’t risk losing the person you have for something as insignificant as your libido.  You don’t hurt them, no matter what!

When you love someone, you take your love seriously.  You treat them nicely, with kindness and with respect. When you love someone, you stay loyal to them at all costs.  Here is what loyal truly means:

  • Being loyal means never saying anything that would embarrass your partner in public
  • Being loyal means keeping confidences!
  • Being loyal means being fully respectful of your partner`s weakness and helping him/her to overcome them
  • Being loyal means prioritizing your partner`s needs. Keeping them as primary over the needs of any other person
  • Being loyal means constantly reminding your partner that you will be there physically and emotionally, whenever and wherever needed.
  • Being loyal means keeping your word at all costs
  • Being loyal means never speaking bad about you partner to others. You should share your frustrations and remarks with someone close, but without blaming the partner

Sources:

https://thoughtcatalog.com/holly-riordan/2017/11/when-you-love-someone-you-stay-

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When you think about spiritual laws of the universe, your mind may go straight to the Law of Attraction. However, it turns out that there is a whole network of interconnected laws that can impact on every aspect of your life. Even better, although these laws can be used to assist in Law of Attraction work, you don’t need to be working on any particular manifestation goal to benefit here.

Often discussed with reference to the healing practice of Ho’oponopono, the Twelve Spiritual Laws of the Universe each teach you something unique about well-being, happiness, and success. When you have a solid sense of these spiritual laws, you develop a clearer picture of your own place in the world. This guide will explore and summarize all twelve of the laws, helping you to understand how they influence you and showing how your awareness of them can lead to positive change.

The 12 Spiritual Laws Of The Universe

When you don’t understand the connections between the spiritual laws, you naturally encounter obstacles. You may feel lost, frustrated and confused about your purpose. It may even feel like virtually everything goes wrong for you, no matter how well you think you’ve planned.

In contrast, people who live their lives with an awareness of the interconnected laws typically report feeling more confident, productive and reflective than ever before. While there is advanced personal work you can do with respect to each law, even starting out with this general grasp of the different laws may make a noticeable difference to the way you feel.

1. The Law of Divine Oneness

The Law of Divine Oneness is the foundational law, according to which absolutely everything in our universe is interconnected. In other words, every choice, word, desire, and belief you have will also have an impact on the world, and on the people in your life.

Sometimes this impact will be immediate and obvious. At other times, it may take a while to manifest, or you may never even discover that it has occurred. Try to think of yourself as part of everything around you to live in accordance with this law. We are all one, and awareness of this makes us more powerful as well as more empathetic.

2. Law of Vibration

According to the Law of Vibration, every particle in the universe is in constant movement and constantly carries energy. This applies to enormous parts of the universe, like the planets and stars. However, it also applies to the chair underneath you or the table where your computer sits.

In addition, everything has its own specific energy frequency. High energy particles are naturally attuned to other high energy particles, and the same is true for those that have low energy.

If your goal is to live a more productive and full life, consider what you would need to do to heighten your energy frequency.

3. Law of Correspondence

The Law of Correspondence is directly related to the foundational Law of Divine Oneness. The key idea here is that patterns repeat throughout the universe, and that prominent patterns can also be found repeating on a very small scale.

For example, think of the popular example of the spiral pattern that reappears in a huge number of places in the galaxy. Look for patterns in your own life and in your thinking, and notice how they repeat elsewhere in the world. As you do so, consider the kinds of pattern changes you might be able to make, and how those will create change on a large scale.

4. Law of Attraction

As you likely already know, the Law of Attraction tells us that like attracts like. So, in order to have the things you desire in life, you have to work out how to vibrate on the same frequency as these things. The more general lesson here is that being positive, proactive and loving attracts more of the same into your life. Meanwhile, pessimism, fear, and lethargy will lead you to generate more negative experiences in all aspects of life.

By working to live more positively even just today, you’re already using the Law of Attraction to create a better existence for yourself.

5. Law of Inspired Action

Law of Attraction practitioners regularly say that they wish they had known about the Law of Inspired action at an earlier stage! These two laws are tightly bound together, and the Inspired Action law tells us that we must actively pursue our goals.

Many people think that visualizing a goal and developing a positive attitude towards it will be sufficient to exploit the Law of Attraction.

However, you also have to take inspired steps towards that thing that you want. Whether it’s a big or small step, it instantly helps you to attract that relationship, job, or enhanced abundance you seek.

6. Law of Perpetual Transmutation of Energy

The Law of Perpetual Transmutation of Energy states that everything around us is in constant flux. You can’t see all of these changes because many of them exist at the cellular or atomic level, but they carry on regardless.

The reason that it’s so important to be aware of this Law is that it helps you see how you can trigger positive change. Specifically, keep in mind that high vibrations can trigger improvements in low vibrations. For example, if you’re vibrating at a low frequency, exposing yourself to the high frequency of a happy, encouraging friend will naturally trigger energy transmutation in you.

7. The Law of Cause and Effect

One of the most straightforward laws of the universe, the Law of Cause and Effect tells us that all actions have a corresponding reaction. You will already know this, of course, when it comes to the physical aspects of the world. However, perhaps you haven’t considered how this law might be applied to the

spiritual aspects of our universe.

Your spiritual life can impact the world around you, causing positive or negative reactions. Similarly, your physical environment can impact on your spirituality, whether for good or for ill. Ask yourself what types of relationships you see between the spiritual and the physical, and how you might want to change them.

8. The Law of Compensation

According to the Law of Compensation, you will receive what you put out. This is similar to the Law of Attraction, but with a focus on the idea that compensation can come in many forms.

For example, if you win a large amount of money then you might think you’re getting a reward. However, depending on how you have lived, your vast amount of wealth could lead to a worse life rather than a better one.

Essentially, you reap what you sow. This law reminds you to be careful about how you treat others, and indeed the planet.

9. Law of Relativity

The Law of Relativity is all about the neutrality of things when seen in isolation. So, no particular person, experience, emotion or action is evaluated as good or bad until you look at it in comparison with something else.

For example, you may think you are poor, but perhaps that’s because you have three wealthy uncles. By keeping this law in mind, you remain conscious of the fact that there are always multiple perspectives on anything that happens to you. Trying to slip into these alternate perspectives can make you more grateful, and can also show you where you can make improvements in life.

10. Law of Polarity

When thinking about the Law of Polarity, the most important thing to remember is that absolutely everything has an opposite and that it’s the very existence of these opposites that allow us to understand our life. Consequently, when you go through something difficult, it will be this thing that helps you truly appreciate the good developments to come.

By regularly reminding yourself of this, you can improve your resilience in troubled times. For example, though a bad breakup is painful, it teaches you what doesn’t work for you in a relationship, helping you to eventually find what does.

11. Law of Rhythm

Sometimes called the Law of Perpetual Motion, the Law of Rhythm is (unsurprisingly) focused on movement. In particular, it refers to the fact that all things come in cycles.

You can see this in nature, e.g., in the seasons, and in the body’s aging process. However, it equally applies to a person’s life stages, and reflecting on this helps you to gain perspective. Today’s season may be good, but nothing is permanent, so enjoy what you have while it lasts. Alternatively, perhaps you’re in a negative part of the cycle right now, but it may be the very thing that prepares you for a prosperous change in cycles next month.

12. Law of Gender

Finally, the Law of Gender has very little to do with biological sex. Rather, it refers to the fact that there are two major types of energy. You can think of them as masculine and feminine, as yin and yang, or as anima and animus. We all contain a certain amount of both energy and must find a way to achieve a balance between both types if we are to live authentically and happily. Think about the role each type of energy appears to play in your life, and whether there is an excess or a deficit of either.

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A successful business man was growing old and knew it was time to choose a successor to take over the business.

Instead of choosing one of his Directors or his children, he decided to do something different. He called all the young executives in his company together.

He said, “It is time for me to step down and choose the next CEO. I have decided to choose one of you..”

The young executives were Shocked, but the boss continued. “I am going to give each one of you a SEED today – one very special SEED… I want you to plant the seed, water it, and come back here one year from today with what you have grown from the seed I have given you. I will then judge the plants that you bring, and the one I choose will be the next CEO.”

One man, named Jim, was there that day and he, like the others, received a seed. He went home and excitedly, told his wife the story. She helped him get a pot, soil and compost and he planted the seed. Everyday, he would water it and watch to see if it had grown. After about three weeks, some of the other executives began to talk about their seeds and the plants that were beginning to grow.

Jim kept checking his seed, but nothing ever grew.

Three weeks, four weeks, five weeks went by, still nothing.

By now, others were talking about their plants, but Jim didn’t have a plant and he felt like a failure.

Six months went by — still nothing in Jim’s pot. He just knew he had killed his seed. Everyone else had trees and tall plants, but he had nothing. Jim didn’t say anything to his colleagues, however.

He just kept watering and fertilizing the soil – He so wanted the seed to grow.

A year finally went by and all the young executives of the company brought their plants to the CEO for inspection.

Jim told his wife that he wasn’t going to take an empty pot. But she asked him to be honest about what happened. Jim felt sick to his stomach, it was going to be the most embarrassing moment of his life, but he knew his wife was right. He took his empty pot to the board room. When Jim arrived, he was amazed at the variety of plants grown by the other executives. They were beautiful — in all shapes and sizes. Jim put his empty pot on the floor and many of his colleagues laughed, a few felt sorry for him!

When the CEO arrived, he surveyed the room and greeted his young executives.

Jim just tried to hide in the back. “My, what great plants, trees, and flowers you have grown,” said the CEO. “Today one of you will be appointed the next CEO!”

All of a sudden, the CEO spotted Jim at the back of the room with his empty pot. He ordered the Financial Director to bring him to the front. Jim was terrified. He thought, “The CEO knows I’m a failure! Maybe he will have me fired!”

When Jim got to the front, the CEO asked him what had happened to his seed – Jim told him the story.

The CEO asked everyone to sit down except Jim. He looked at Jim, and then announced to the young executives, “Behold your next Chief Executive Officer!

His name is Jim!” Jim couldn’t believe it. Jim couldn’t even grow his seed.

“How could he be the new CEO?” the others said.

Then the CEO said, “One year ago today, I gave everyone in this room a seed. I told you to take the seed, plant it, water it, and bring it back to me today. But I gave you all boiled seeds; they were dead – it was not possible for them to grow.

All of you, except Jim, have brought me trees and plants and flowers. When you found that the seed would not grow, you substituted another seed for the one I gave you. Jim was the only one with the courage and honesty to bring me a pot with my seed in it. Therefore, he is the one who will be the new Chief Executive Officer!”

* If you plant honesty, you will reap trust

* If you plant goodness, you will reap friends

* If you plant humility, you will reap greatness

* If you plant perseverance, you will reap contentment

* If you plant consideration, you will reap perspective

* If you plant hard work, you will reap success

* If you plant forgiveness, you will reap reconciliation

* If you plant faith in God, you will reap a harvest

So, be careful what you plant now; it will determine what you will reap later.

“Whatever You Give To Life, Life Gives You Back”

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When creating a family, everyone wants to be happy in their marriage. And one of the criteria for happiness is marital fidelity. Willard F. Harley, Jr., Ph.D., a clinical psychologist and marriage counselor conducted an experiment with more than 800 couples and found out that men and women have basic needs that should be satisfied in order to decrease the chances of infidelity.

We read Willard F. Harley Jr.’s book His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage and we want to share the information about which needs, according to Hartley, should be satisfied to ensure that the couple is happy and the partners don’t want to change anything.

1. Her need to have tenderness and his need to have sex

  • Women have the need to have tenderness.

It’s not just about tenderness, but also about attachment and love. These feelings can be expressed in multiple ways: kissing and hugging, flowers, calls, and general caring gestures. All these things make a woman feel protected and comfortable.

  • Men have the need to have sex.

Women often underestimate men’s strong need to have sex. Willard F. Harley thinks that men’s need for sex and women’s need for tenderness are connected. If a man doesn’t show any love or tenderness, there are chances that he won’t get any sex. And vice versa, if a woman doesn’t let a man have sex with her, he won’t be tender with her.

2. Her need to talk and his need to have a friend for hobbies and entertainment

  • Women have the need to talk.

Women need their men to listen to them and give them feedback about what they say. In courtship, the couple happily meets each other and talks. For women, it’s very important to have the same thing in their marriage. Willard F. Harley found out that in order to feel satisfied, women need about 15 hours of men’s attention per week. This is a little more than 2 hours per day.

  • Men need their women to be a companion in entertainment.

Women often share their partners’ interests while dating: they go fishing, watch hockey, and so on. In marriage, they either try to get their partners enjoy what they like or let their husband do what they like alone. But for men, it’s very important that their wives are good companions. According to the psychologist, relaxing with their wives is the second most important thing for men.

3. Her need for honesty and his need to have an attractive wife

  • Women need an honest and open partner.

Women’s trust is based on the honesty of their partner. That’s why, in order not to lose their trust, it’s very important for a man to be honest even with the smallest details.

  • Men need physically attractive wives.

Let’s be realistic: men can’t appreciate their wives only for their intelligence. They also need them to be physically attractive.

4. Her need to have enough money and his need to have a cozy house

  • Women need to have enough money.

We might say that there is never enough money but there is a certain amount necessary for life, stability, and feeling safe. This is what the scientist means.

  • Men need their houses to be cozy.

Men encounter a lot of problems and tasks every day that need to be solved regularly, so it’s very important that they have a tidy and orderly place where they can rest. This need is so strong that they even dream about it.

5. Her need to have a husband who is a good father and his need to be admired

  • Women need their husbands to be good fathers.

It’s important to women that their husbands are good role models for their sons and the image of a perfect man for their daughters. Also, men need to take certain responsibilities in the development and education of their children.

  • Men need to be admired.

It’s important for men to be proud of themselves and realize that their women admire them. Sincere admiration is a serious motivator for men. It inspires them to do even more.

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14 Signs You’ve Found A Truly Good Man

Posted June 2, 2018 By Mark

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A good man is hard to find. Despite the fact that the odds will not always be in your favor, the ideas of romantic relationships, true love and soulmates are still alive.

It’s estimated that the two-thirds of Americans believe in the concept of a ‘soulmate,’ that there’s one man or woman out there in the world whom they’re destined to find and love.

With more than 7.6 billion people on the planet, it’s no wonder that we’re going to have to kiss several frogs before we finally find our prince charming. The dating world brings both great joy and unbearable heartache. Despite the possibility of getting hurt, it’s all worth it when you’ve finally found ‘the one.’ However, how can you know for sure that the person you are with is worthy of it?

#1 – He Makes You Feel Secure

One of the traits of a relationship which is highly coveted is that of security. A good man will certainly go out of his way to make sure that you have nothing less than that. Determined to keep you secure in any situation, he is not afraid to stand up for the woman he loves.

#2 – He’s Never Abusive

That doesn’t simply refer to the fact that he does not physically lay a hand on you. A good man is not abusive in any way. A good man won’t be physically, mentally or emotionally abusive to anybody that he meets in his life: from the waiter at his favorite restaurant right up to his woman and his family.

#3 – He’s There to Support You

That’s not to say that he is there to agree with every single thing you say or do blindly. However, when it truly matters, you can count on him; he’s going to be there to support you throughout your life’s challenges.

#4 – You Are His Priority

If he were to list his priorities, you would be among the firsts. He understands that to have a happy, healthy relationship you cannot leave work, hobbies, friends, and family behind. However, he will devote a great amount of his time to the woman who matters to him.

#5 – He is Honest

Dishonesty is among the greatest relationship killers. A good man always tells the truth, even if it’s uncomfortable or hurtful. He understands the importance of honesty and won’t give you any reason not to trust him.

#6 – He Will Never Cross the Line

You’re going to have some arguments and disagreements throughout your relationship because that’s an inevitable part of any relationship. However, he understands that he can disagree with your opinions without crossing any lines into attacking, degrading or disrespecting you.

#7 – He Makes You Feel Beautiful Inside and Out

A good man does not merely say the words; he wants to make sure that you always feel beautiful both inside and out. He does that through his actions and how he interacts with you every day.

#8 – He Stands by You Through Everything

Throughout all of your life’s challenges, struggles and celebrations your good man will always stand proudly by your side. He can understand that real love stays strong in both the good and the bad times, and he would not even entertain the idea of ever abandoning you when you need him the most.

#9 – He Appreciates the ‘Little Things’ in Life

While several men will focus on the grand gestures and forget about the smaller nuances of a content relationship, a good man always appreciates the little moments. He’s the guy who will live you little love notes, hold the door, and do the dishes without being asked.

#10 – He Understands That Actions Speak Louder Than Words

Anyone can talk a big game, making themselves sound like the perfect romantic ones. The difference is that a good man follows up with actions to support his statements. He knows that his actions speak louder than any words and he’s willing to put effort into living with this knowledge in mind each day.

#11 – He Inspires You

When you’re around him, you find yourself trying to be the best version of yourself. Energetic, motivated and true to himself, a good man sets an example you cannot help but follow.

#12 – He Has Worked Hard to Earn Your Trust

A good man knows that trust is not something that’s freely handed out to just anybody and everybody. He dedicates himself every day to earn your trust, and will never take it for granted.

#13 – He Opens Up to You

A relationship is a partnership, and as such you expect your partner to be there with you no matter what might happen in life. A good man understands that to be a cohesive team, you both need to open up to each other and share even your most vulnerable sides.

#14 – He Actively Tries to Be the Best Version of Himself

He isn’t willing to settle for simply being a ‘good’ person in this world. A good man knows that he has the potential to become great, and actively seeks opportunities for self-improvement and growth while trying to become the best version of himself.

 

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This article 14 Signs You’ve Found A Truly Good Man was published by Thinking Humanity and it is re-posted here under a Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported License

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