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You see, trust in marriage can always be built and made stronger over time. Even after trust has been broken, it can be rebuilt using these two proven steps: transparency and effective communication, even when it may be difficult.

As you already know, trust is extremely vital for your marriage to thrive and be fulfilling. It’s also the most important thing that makes pursuing any relationship worthwhile.

In fact, trust is the glue that holds a healthy marriage together because, without it, a great relationship can’t exist.

That’s why we want to show you the two most important and effective steps required for building, or rebuilding, trust with your spouse.

Now, think about this:

Can your marriage survive without trust? 

Is it even possible to have a healthy marriage without the complete trust of your spouse?

As you can see, trusting your spouse is key to a happy, healthy, and fulfilling marriage. From our experience, it is impossible for married couples to have a “real” marriage or relationship without that complete trust.

By “real” relationship, we mean a fulfilling and healthy marriage.

The well-known causes of trust issues in marriages

When it comes to trust issues in marriages, the most common cause is one or a combination of the following:

Extra-marital sex

Lying

 Financial infidelity

Emotional affairs

Constant contact with an ex

Insecurities

That being said, the presence of trust issues certainly plays a big role in many unhappy and unhealthy marriages.

Most importantly, trust issues such as infidelity can result in lifelong consequential effects on your kids, spouse, family, and self-image.

Building and maintaining complete trust in your marriage should be a top priority!

Why complete trust in marriage is so important

Building complete trust with each other is one of the best things we’ve done to build a strong foundation for our marriage.

As a result of building complete trust in our marriage, we’ve been able to talk about anything and be heard.

Also, the freedom to express yourself makes you feel secure. It also creates a peaceful home environment.

In other words, being able to trust your husband or wife provides you with comfort. It reduces stress, insecurity, and worries about your husband or wife not being transparent with you about everything.

Unfortunately, having no trust in your marriage means your marriage could end in a separation or divorce very quickly.

The lack of trust could also lead to an unhappy life with a roommate (your spouse).

Trust also impacts all forms of intimacy

Whether it’s emotional, intellectual, or sexual intimacy, trust plays a big role in how satisfied you and your spouse will be.

In marriage, we have the opportunity to have the most intimate relationship with another human being; our spouse.

For you and your spouse to be so closely connected, you must feel comfortable enough to bare your souls to each other.

Dr. Henry Cloud puts it this way, “Intimacy comes from “knowing” the other person at a deep level. If there are barriers to honesty, knowing is ruled out and the false takes over.” (Boundaries in Marriage).

In order for us to feel safe enough to bare our souls to each other, to be naked not just in a physical, but an emotional way with our spouse, you must be able to trust them.

Again, Dr. Cloud puts it this way, “True intimacy is the closest thing to heaven we can know.

Trust is one of the best perks we can have through our marriage. Truly knowing someone, having them know you, being truly loved and accepted for who you are, is truly mind-blowing.

The first step on how to build trust in your marriage

Building trust in a marriage does not happen overnight. It takes TIME.

Building trust requires effort, especially if either you and/or your spouse have trust issues from past relationships, or marriage(s). There is an easier way to make complete trust a reality in your marriage.

Start by being transparent and completely honest with your spouse.

Communicate truthfully. STOP the petty lies. Don’t fudge anything.

Tell your spouse when you overspend on an item in your monthly budget. Tell your spouse, when you have entertained thoughts about being with another person, or are tempted to cheat. (How do you and your spouse define cheating for your marriage?)

Again, tell your spouse when you are hurt by his/her words and actions, but also be ready to take responsibility for your own emotions. When you forget and didn’t do something you said you would do, be honest about it with your spouse.

Sincere and honest communication won’t be easy all the time. But do it anyway because the end result is worth it!

Honest communication is a simple, yet effective concept. Because the more you establish trust through transparency, the more you will become completely open, feel connected to your spouse, and strengthen trust in your marriage.

Can one little “white lie” really do any harm to your marriage?

Why must I tell my spouse so much? Our answer is simple.

As you strengthen trust between you both, the need for such detailed transparency will lessen over time.

When building, or rebuilding trust in your marriage, you each need to see that the other is being honest and is trustworthy all the time.

From our experience, being consistently open about the little things makes it easier, to be honest about the bigger things that come up in life. Practicing this creates a transparent and honest communication environment in your marriage.

In other words, trust is built through consistency.

Lies or not telling your spouse the truth, because what they don’t know won’t hurt them, simply erodes the basic foundation of your marriage (trust).

In addition, you will find it difficult to be transparent and as a result, being truly intimate on a deeper level with your spouse will not be possible.

“Deception damages a relationship. The act of lying is much more damaging than the things that are being lied about because lying undermines the knowing of one another and the connection itself.”

“Deception is the one thing that cannot be worked through because it denies the problem.” – Dr. Henry Cloud.

The second step in building trust in your marriage

Needless to say, if the first step in building trust is transparency, naturally, the second step will be… effective communication. It’s one of the most important marriage skills that will get you closer to building trust with your spouse.

Effective communication will also help you to communicate without fighting, feel heard, and be able to learn how to empathetically listen to your spouse.

Once you learn how to communicate with your spouse it will become easier to approach or talk to your spouse about anything. For example, you will be able to have deeper conversations, which is the key to intellectual intimacy.

Effective communication is the path that will help you build trust with your spouse. In addition, communicating effectively brings you together, helps you to connect with each other, and makes being honest easier.

Simply because you will be talking to your best friend. The person you have decided to commit the rest of your life to and established an intimate relationship with.

And here’s the best part:

When you completely trust your spouse, sex is better, more passionate, free and satisfying. 😉

You need to be honest with your spouse!

And your wife or husband needs to be honest with you too, even when it hurts.

Take the first steps to establish trust by communicating to your spouse that you need to be honest with each other from now on.

We had a few incidences in our first year of marriage where complete honesty was not present. We hurt each other in the process unintentionally.

But we worked through this by communicating truthfully; explaining that it wasn’t okay. We wouldn’t accept being dishonest in our marriage, forgave each other and made sure to not make the same mistakes again (lining up our actions with our words).

Did we mess up again?

Yes.

It happens to all of us. We are not perfect and never will be. All we can do is strive to be better every day, learn from our mistakes, and move on.

We messed up again. But now, we can say we completely trust each other after implementing the 2 proven steps we mentioned above consistently.

By communicating effectively with each other, we came up with a plan that helped us to survive our first year of marriage.

As you know, part of the reasons why we started this website is to help other married couples avoid the same mistakes we did. Learn from our mistakes to avoid the pain!

The biggest reasons that make rebuilding trust in marriage hard

First, it took you a lot of time, experiences, and reflections to trust your then boyfriend/girlfriend, now spouse. So much so you decided to get engaged and later chose to marry him or her out of the billions of human beings in this world.

Second, because trust is built over time, it hurts so much more when its broken by the person you love the most.

The person you have committed to spend the rest of your life with.

Lastly, as humans, it’s very difficult for us to forget the emotional pains we experience, which makes it more difficult for us to rebuild trust once it’s broken.

And depending on what caused the trust to be broken, it could take anywhere from a few weeks to more than a year to rebuild trust in a marriage.

How to rebuild trust in a marriage

Although rebuilding trust in a marriage after lying is not easy, trust can be rebuilt again after it has been broken.

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It will take time. And sometimes even years to regain complete trust in your marriage.

But how do you rebuild and restore trust with your husband or wife? What do you do when trust is broken?

Well, in addition to the two important steps we mentioned above (transparency and effective communication), below are 18 tips you can implement immediately.

Pick the most relevant tip(s) and start practicing it today.

18 Tips to help you regain, restore, or rebuild trust in your marriage

1. Ask your spouse what you can do to earn back their trust.

2. Promise yourself, and each other that you will be truthful and honest even if it hurts.

3. Share your secrets especially the pains and struggles you go through every day.

4. Learn to fight fair in a healthy way.

5. Stop the lying. It will only make things worse.

6. Be aware of the damages caused, accept your wrongdoings and be responsible.

7. Keep your promises.

8. Listen and pay attention to your spouse.

9. Take the blame-game away.

10. Give your spouse an opportunity to earn your trust.

11. Trust in marriage is mutual. It takes two to make it happen. So, make sure your spouse is on board.

12. Be yourself and be real.

13. Be open to counseling or seeing a marriage coach if need be.

14. Forgive your spouse.

15. Develop a plan of action and execute it.

16. Accept that it will take time and patience.

17. Show your spouse you love and appreciate them.

18. Set boundaries in your marriage to prevent a repeat of the same trust issues that caused the trust to be broken and betrayed.

If your spouse is willing to trust you again, you can always earn his/her trust back. The difficult part is when your spouse doesn’t want to trust you again because of one or multiple betrayals.

In that case, you will both have to talk about what your marriage will look like without trust. It will be a difficult conversation, but one to have sooner, rather than later.

Marriage workshop for building, rebuilding and restoring trust in marriage.

If you are looking for more ways to rebuild trust in your marriage, check out Trust Me! Restore, Renew & Rebuild Your Foundation.

Trust Me! is an online marriage workshop that will help you to build, rebuild, and strengthen trust in your marriage. You can even save your marriage and bring back trust by applying what you learn from this marriage workshop.

Click here to access Trust Me! Restore, Renew & Rebuild Your Foundation

If you prefer to read, try reading some of the best marriage books.

A great one to check out about trust is Healing Your Marriage When Trust Is Broken by Cindy Beall. This book will help you rebuild trust in your marriage.

Your spouse has the best intentions for you

After getting married, the two become one. Your trust for each other must benurtured and protected continually. Never entertain distrust in your marriage.

Always be honest and sincere with your spouse. If you are unwilling to trust your spouse, what are your reasons? What is stopping you?

Whatever your reasons are, don’t be afraid to share them with your spouse. So you can resolve them as soon as possible.

If you need more help, always seek the help of a marriage counselor or coach.

Final thoughts

It’s very very hard to rebuild trust in marriage. Infact, it takes years to build trust with someone so respect and honor the trust your spouse has for you.

Never take it for granted.

Now, if you’re trying to build, strengthen, or rebuild trust with your spouse, practice what you have learned today. And you will be on your way to building complete trust with your spouse.

“A marriage without trust is like a car without gas, you can stay in it as long as you want but it won’t go anywhere.” Unknown

Your turn

Do you trust your spouse completely?

How do you deal with mistrust issues in your marriage?

What are some other ways for rebuilding trust in marriage?

 

Gratitude is expressed to https://ourpeacefulfamily.com/trust-in-marriage-how-to-build-rebuild-restore-spouse-wife-husband/

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Finding real love and experiencing genuine emotions is something really rare nowadays.  It’s an incredible event that has the power to change your life.  A sensation that will make you understand things you haven’t even realized before.

It’s something that is worth waiting for.  Something that should never be compromised.  Love is an emotion that needs to be experienced fully.  In all its extents, in all its forms is all its realms.  Because only then will we be able to truly understand the meaning of our existence.

In the meantime, know your worth and never settle for something less than you deserve.  Be alone if you have to, but wait for the real things.  Choose to be with a person who genuinely cares about making you happy.

1 – CHOOSE TO BE WITH SOMEONE WHO CAN’T STAND TO BE APART FROM YOU

Find a person who never wants to leave you.  Someone who would enjoy being beside you every step of the way.  Someone who wouldn’t stand not seeing you even for one day.

The person who truly loves you would enjoy seeing you every hour, every minute, every second of the day.

2 – STAY SINGLE UNTIL YOU FIND SOMEONE WHO ALWAYS CALLS TO CHECK ON YOU

Don’t settle for a person who can’t find time to see you.  Don’t settle for the inconsiderate guy who plays his childish games with you and avoids expressing his real emotions.

Stay single if you need, but wait for the right person who will show you that love knows no limits.

3 – CHOOSE TO BE WITH SOMEONE WHO IS NOT AFRAID TO EXPRESS THEIR DEEPEST EMOTIONS

Love is something that should be experienced fully.  It is an emotion that should consume our soul and help us experience the sublime sensation of freedom.

If a person cannot bother to undress their soul in front of you and reveal their deepest secrets and flaws, that’s not love.

4 – BE WITH SOMEONE WHO MAKES YOU FEEL THINGS YOU’VE NEVER FELT BEFORE

Choose to wait for the real one.  Because when he comes, you’ll feel it.  You’ll feel burning sensation inside your fragile heart.  The butterflies in your stomach will go crazy.  Your eyes will glisten the way they never did before.  Your smile will shine brighter than ever.

When it is right, you’ll feel it in your gut.

5 – STAY SINGLE UNTIL YOU FIND SOMEONE WHO FULLY EMBRACES AND LOVES YOUR FLAWS

More importantly, never settle for someone who can’t embrace you for your individuality.  Don’t settle for a person who can’t accept your flaws and constantly tries to mold you into something they need.

Stay single until you meet the love of your life who will fully accept you for who you truly are.

6 – CHOOSE TO BE WITH A PERSON WHO CAN’T IMAGINE HIS LIFE WITHOUT YOU

If you want to feel genuine love and uncensored, raw emotions don’t settle for someone who likes to believe that “there are plenty of fishes in the sea”.

Instead, save your heart for a person who wouldn’t want to imagine his life without you in it.  Choose to be with someone who would love imagining his future with only you.

7 – BE WITH SOMEONE WHO IS PROUD TO HAVE YOU

Be with the guy who won’t be afraid to embrace you with all of your achievement and glory.  Choose to settle for a man who will cheer for you every step of the way, someone who will celebrate your success, not despise it.

Life is short for waisting on all the wrong people.

8 – STAY SINGLE UNTIL YOU FIND A PERSON WHO PROVES TO YOU THAT TRUE LOVE EXISTS

Most importantly, don’t settle for less that you truly deserve until you find a man who will do anything to prove to you that love exists and can be found in the most unusual places.

Stay single until you find this person, guard your soul, nurture your heart and choose to be with the one who will show you what love really means.

PS.  Once you find such a man – never let go cherish him as he will cherish you.  Together as a couple you will meet the challenges and joys of life.

 

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In Service Of The Heart

Posted October 8, 2018 By Mark

In Service Of The Heart

If I spent some time every day connecting to my heart
If I spent some time every day connecting to the stillness there
If I spent some time every day connecting to the peace there
If I spent some time every day connecting to the love there
If I spent some time every day connecting to the Mystery there
If I spent some time every day connecting to myself there
I might live with a little more kindness
I might live with a little more gentleness
I might live with a little more compassion
I might live with a little more gratitude
I might live with a little more peace
I might live with a little more caring
I might live with a little more connection
I might live with a little more awareness
I might live with a little more softness
I might see you in me
I might see your journey beside mine
You on your path through life
Me on mine
And I might ask
Can I share a moment with you
That may be a word, a touch, a breath, a look
From my heart
That simply says
I see you
Can I take a moment to wonder at the world
A flower, a tree, a cloud, the sky
And be a part of it
And breathe thanks
Can I soften my grasp on acquiring
And consider creating
And grow the understanding that there is enough
Can I take a moment to go within
And heal my hurts
That I may be whole to share myself
With life
And teach my children so
And can I sit with you, my love
Your hand in mine
And know, simply know
That your heart beats with mine
Beats with the tides
Beats with the breeze
Beats with the rising sun
Beats with life
Beats with love.

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Here Is Why Most Men Cannot Handle Deep Women!

Posted September 20, 2018 By Mark

There are many beautiful, independent women with an incredible character who are still single. People often wonder how is it possible such a woman not to be able to find a man for herself. They often assume that there must be some hidden problem or flaw that makes men run away, but the thing is that men cannot handle a strong woman.

This is why Man run Away from Deep women:

  • They enjoy deep conversations.

These women are not pleased with small talks and they are not interested in men who talk about the weather or gossip others. They will probably run away from this type of men after the first meeting. They enjoy talking about some serious themes, about the meaning and the purpose of life. They also enjoy hearing stories about their life experiences. This means that they are serious and want serious relationships which is an opposite of what most men expect – having fun and going out.

  • They ask awkward questions

Men are generally known for not being able to give answers to many questions and for them it is really difficult going out with deep women because they can ask awkward questions even on the first date. They can ask them some philosophical question that men may not understand or something personal that they are not feeling comfortable to share with others.

  • They are cruelly honest.

They appreciate honesty, so they will speak their main no matter the price they might pay for it. The won`t tell you lies just to make you feel good. They also expect the same from their partner and they will never forgive a lie.

  • They always know what they want.

Even from the first date and the first conversation they will be sure whether they like the man. They won`t go out on many dates to choose the right guy, they simply know who is the one for them.

  • They expect consistency

They hate people who don’t know what they are doing and change their mind and behavior every once in a while. They like strong bonds with their partners and consistency is the essential part of it.

  • They like people who appreciate their depth

These women never waste their time and feelings on people who don’t value them. They are very passionate and want to see that their partner appreciates that. At the same time, they are very strong and not afraid to be alone, so they can leave their partner at the same moment they realize they are not appreciating their depth.

  • They’re intense

Sometimes it is hard to deal with this type of woman because they go deep in everything. They simply go for the things they want and cannot be indifferent to them.

  • They know everything about their partners.

There is not a thing that they don’t know about their partner. They always know what their partner wants and feels. It is simply hard to hide something from them.

  • They aren’t afraid of intimacy

They are not like some other woman that will hide their feelings only to avoid being hurt. They like being close and intimate with their partner and they built their relationships on that.

  • They love deeply

As we already said they go deep in everything and so they go deep in love. They cannot pretend to be friends with someone they love or to go out with them from time to time. They want serious relationships full with love and understanding. They want their partner to return equally on their feelings of love.

Source:

http://www.positivethingsonly.com/men-cannot-handle-deep-women/

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We are living in the 21st century where everything is done in a hurry. It seems like everyone around us is in a rush, trying to do his daily tasks. Living like this most of us usually forget about the importance of spending time with our family. No matter how busy we are we should always find some time for our parents, grandparents and other relatives.

Having a good relationship with family members is good for our mental health and it makes us feel more confident since we know that there is always someone that cares for us. But this is not the only reason why you should visit your parents and grandparents more often.  Some studies that have been conducted recently showed that leaving lonely life can lead to a development of many diseases and cause an early death. We all know that happy people live longer since their mood influences the work of the vital organs.  Leaving lonely life makes people numb and they seem to lose interest in many things as a result of this they find it hard to do the daily tasks and they often go through the day sitting on the sofa and watching television.

This is especially important for older people who don’t go to work and spent most of their time at home, waiting for their children and grandchildren to visit them. It seems that this visit is the biggest joy in their lives. One study in which the participants were people in their sixties proved that older people are more likely to get ill and even die when they feel lonely.

Having a Good Relationship with Your Mom & Dad Is Good for You

Researches have been curious about the relationship between a mother/father and a child and its impact on the child`s life. So, they conducted studies that included fifth and sixth graders and concluded that children who had a good relationship with their mothers & fathers were more accepted by the other students, had more friends, lead a better conversation, were less critical and felt less lonely than the children who had an insecure relationship with their mothers.

However, this doesn’t mean that you should always have a good relationship, we all have quarrels from time to time. But it is important that you have positive interactions and happy moments with your parents because they have a positive impact on your personality.

On the other side, studies about the relationship between parents and their grown-up kids showed that when they have a negative relationship their encounters could lead to stress and irritation. This is why we should all give our best to make a pleasant atmosphere full with good vibes. When people have a great time on the family encounters they can`t wait for the next time when they will see each other.

Here Are Some Tips How to Put Your Family First:
  • Live in a smaller city where people know the importance of spending time with their family and spend holidays away.
  • When you are together at home don’t watch TV, instead turn it off and have a meaningful conversation.
  • Cook a dinner or lunch and gather the whole family together.
  • Order a take-out meal and enjoy with your relatives
  • Organize your time. Make a balance between life and work.
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When You Love Someone, You Stay Loyal To Them

Posted September 20, 2018 By Mark

When you genuinely love someone, you don’t hide your phone from them and text secretly as you are worried about what they might see on the screen.  You don’t use fake names for your contacts nor delete messages so they cannot find anything.  You don’t answer calls late in the night and lie about the person calling you.

When you love someone, you don’t even consider downloading Tinder or similar apps to flip through your options or see how many matches you will get to boost your confidence.  You don’t even think about flirting with others, even if it is completely harmless.

When you love someone, you don’t act like you are single. You don’t give your phone number to people who are obviously interested in you. You don’t act in a way which suggests that you are available.

When you love someone, you don’t lose self-control! You don’t indulge in alcohol and use it as an excuse for cheating or flirting.  You don’t communicate with your exes and look at them as a backup when your relationship comes to an end. You don’t give others a chance, although you are already in a relationship.

When you love someone, you don’t go to your ex whenever you have a tiny argument. You don’t jump in bed with the first person only because you are angry.  You don’t destroy a serious relationship built on faith and trust for a night of distraction.

When you truly love someone, you don’t make them jealous by flirting with others, even if it is harmless and done only to see their reaction.  You don’t call them weird or crazy for getting angry when you stare at others.

When you love someone, you don’t even consider cheating on your partner as an option, whether it is physical or emotional, in big ways or trivial ways.  You don’t risk losing the person you have for something as insignificant as your libido.  You don’t hurt them, no matter what!

When you love someone, you take your love seriously.  You treat them nicely, with kindness and with respect. When you love someone, you stay loyal to them at all costs.  Here is what loyal truly means:

  • Being loyal means never saying anything that would embarrass your partner in public
  • Being loyal means keeping confidences!
  • Being loyal means being fully respectful of your partner`s weakness and helping him/her to overcome them
  • Being loyal means prioritizing your partner`s needs. Keeping them as primary over the needs of any other person
  • Being loyal means constantly reminding your partner that you will be there physically and emotionally, whenever and wherever needed.
  • Being loyal means keeping your word at all costs
  • Being loyal means never speaking bad about you partner to others. You should share your frustrations and remarks with someone close, but without blaming the partner

Sources:

https://thoughtcatalog.com/holly-riordan/2017/11/when-you-love-someone-you-stay-

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Women love to talk about love, expecting their guy to say “I love you” as often as they do. But they are often disappointed. The average guy would rather roll around in poison ivy than talk about his feelings. Men don’t want to talk about their relationships with anyone, even the women they love. This doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you, deeply and completely. It’s possible he has never said “I love you” to anyone in his entire life. If he loves you, he’ll eventually say the words.

Until then, look at his actions. To a guy, actions are what matter, not words. We did a little research and uncovered seven common behaviors that show he’s in love, even without the words.

1. He’s willing to sacrifice for you.

A man in love wants to do all he can to make his lady happy and is willing to make great sacrifices for her. In a fulfilling and lasting relationship, each gladly sacrifices for the other. When your man does something for you, whether it’s something grand or doing the dishes, he’s telling you he loves you. Sacrificing for the one you love is selfless and takes maturity. It shouldn’t be a one-way street.

2. He respects your friends and family

When a man loves you, he’ll respect the other relationships that are important to you. This doesn’t mean he’ll like all of those people, but he’ll be civil and show respect. He doesn’t want unnecessary conflict with others to damage his relationship with you. It could happen that someone you care about doesn’t really care about you. If he sees someone hurting you, even if it’s someone you care about, he’ll be conflicted between protecting you and respecting that person. In all likelihood, he’ll choose to protect you out of love.

3. He loves you even with bad hair and stained jeans.

You probably tried on sixteen outfits before your first date and continued to always look your best as time went on. Eventually, when you begin spending more and more time together, the day comes when you just look awful. Perhaps you’re sick or simply tired and sweaty. It doesn’t matter to a guy in love. He accepts you and loves you however you look. Men celebrating their 50th wedding anniversary have often said, “She looks as beautiful to me now as on the day we met.” Men appreciate the effort their woman makes to look her best, but love the real woman underneath the pretty clothes and makeup.

4. He’s a good listener.

Women are typically better listeners than men. If your guy really listens to you, he’s a keeper. This is particularly true if he doesn’t give his full attention to many people. This can be demonstrated in countless small ways. If you’ve said you love lilies but aren’t fond of roses and he gives you lilies for Valentine’s Day, he heard what you said. If he remembers you talking about something you’ve always wanted to do and makes it happen, he’s deeply in love.

5. He’s not afraid to show his vulnerability.

Men don’t like to expose their vulnerabilities. Perhaps it’s genetic, but men normally want to appear strong at all times. Perhaps this is why so many guys put off going to the doctor as long as possible and make terrible patients. One of the truest signs of love from a man is when he begins to expose his inner feelings and what he considers weaknesses. This shows that he really trusts you above all others. It can take quite a while before this happens, but letting his guard down is a true sign of love. (Don’t ever betray this trust – it could destroy the relationship.)

6. He’s got your back.

If your guy doesn’t stick up for you, this doesn’t always mean he doesn’t love you. Sometimes a guy thinks it’s family or friend drama and you don’t need his help. However, when it’s important, a man who loves you will stick up for you and always have your back.

7. He brags about you.

If you’ve ever heard a man brag about his lady, you can be sure he really loves her. He’s proud of the woman he loves. When he tells a friend about how smart you are, how great you cook or what a wonderful mom you are, he’s saying “I love you and I’m proud of you.” Treasure these words. Be proud of him also.

Does you guy display any of these seven signs? These are acts of love. He may never say “I love you” as often as you’d like, but he will let his actions speak for him. If the man you love shows all seven, he could be “the one.”

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4 Habits Of Couples That Last

Posted August 16, 2018 By Mark

So you found someone really special and you want to do everything you can do to make your intentions known and the relationship be as rewarding as possible.

There are some basic traits that can be easily overlooked. These aspects seem obvious, but it can be easy to become distracted. As you grow and develop your relationship here are some things to always keep in mind and do your best to execute.

Open, Honest Communication

Communication is KEY. Not just relaying how your day went or other daily, small details, it’s important for the two of you to open up to each other intimately. Listening and engaging in the expressions of life’s problems and joys helps the two of you acknowledge where you are in relation to each other. Expressing and recognizing the pleasures of life and personal aspirations is just as important addressing the problems and obstacles. It shows trust, respect and commitment to willingly express and receive your partner’s opinions and personal thoughts or feelings.

Works On Solving Problems

Problems are bound to happen. Either external forces (financial strain, family issues or societal judgements) or internal influences (hesitational trusting, troubles opening up, not being emotionally available) have to be dealt with equally. There has to be clear communication and a trusting, non judgemental environment for that the two of you can express needs and fears.

Reaffirming Commitment

You have choices in life and the fact that the two of you continue to choose each other is reason for celebration. Don’t underestimate the strength of showing gratitude and appreciation to your partner. It doesn’t always have to be a grand gesture or celebration, even a simple ‘thank you for being with me’ can really strengthen your relationship.

Actively Sharing And Creating Moments

This is the step beyond communication, it is the application of gathered information and directing it to an end. Make private jokes, have fun games you two play, or cook new foods together. Make conscious decisions to spend time together need to be made and full filled. Put away the cell phones, and be as present and open to each other. Don’t make expectations on the time you spend together, let events happen organically. Expectations will just limit or diminish the rewards.

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21 Secrets Of The Leo Personality…

Posted August 10, 2018 By Mark

Have you ever wondered what it is that makes Leos such… well… Leos?

Those of us that are born under this sign can sometimes be labelled as shallow or vain but the truth is there is a lot more to the Leo personality that isn’t always apparent until you really get to know them.

So to give you some insight into what it really means to be born under the Leo sign today we’ll be revealing 21 ‘core’ traits and characteristics that are commonly found in the Leo personality.

 

1. Leo has a big heart and a lot of love to give the world.

Leos have a compassionate heart and they tend to be extremely kind and generous creatures.

They are always willing to help out a loved one in need and they will go to great lengths to make sure that those they care about most are happy.

 2. But Leo will unleash FURY if you try to take advantage of their kindness.

Sometimes Leo can be too kind for their own good and they may find that less savory characters try to take advantage their generosity.

If they catch you abusing their good-will they will not hesitate to unleash the fury of their inner lion to scare you off trying your bullshit with them ever again.

 3. When Leo goes for something they REALLY go for it.

The traits and characteristics of drive and determination are strong in the Leo and when they decide that they want to do something… well they don’t half ass it.

They can’t resist a challenge and are often extremely attracted to the seemingly unobtainable wanting to push themselves to the limit to achieve the impossible.

For a Leo it’s go hard or go home.

 4. Loyalty is Leo’s middle name.

If there’s one thing that you can say about Leo with certainty it’s that they are some of the most loyal people that you will ever meet.

Once you have earned their trust you will have an ally in Leo for life.

 5. Leo is a protector and their presence makes people feel safe.

Like a Lion with their cubs the Leo is fiercely protective of those that they care most about it.

When the shit hits the fan Leo tends to be the one that you can count on to bail you out.

 6. Leo is a natural born leader who excels when they’re running the show.

Some people may find Leo to be a little on the bossy side but there’s no denying that they make for exceptional leaders who are more than capable of leading their team to a glorious victory.

Taking charge just comes naturally to Leo and they often find themselves falling into leadership positions without even trying.

 7. Leo is straight up with you and will always give you the facts.

 

Leos aren’t the types to play confusing mind games with you and they don’t like to be sneaky or go behind people’s backs.

They tend to be extremely direct and straight forward with people and with Leo you can be sure to always know where you stand.

Those closest to Leo often turn to them when they want their ‘no bullshit’ opinion about something.

8. Leo is a social creature who loves to connect with others.

Leos are naturally social creatures who crave human interaction and love nothing more than to bond with good friends.

They’re always sparking up the most interesting of conversations and when they are on their A-game they’re often the life of the party.

 9. But Leo also needs alone time to unwind and collect their thoughts.

Sometimes Leo will just disappear for a while to get away from all the chaos and collect their thoughts.

They never disappear for too long though… just long enough to recharge their batteries.

 10. Leo LOVES a bit of attention and affection.

There are few things that Leo likes more than a healthy dose of attention and affection… especially when it’s from the right person.

They love to feel wanted and can’t stand to feel ignored.

 11. You can always count on Leo to come through for you.

If you’re looking for a friend that will stick by their word no matter what… then look no further than the Leo.

They possess strong traits of reliability and dependability and when they make a promise you can be sure that they will keep it.

 12. Leo is an optimist who is able to see the silver lining to life.

Leo doesn’t like to sit around moaning and groaning constantly finding problems in life.

They are optimists who are always able to find the positive side to any situation and they prefer to revel in the good than dwell over the bad.

 13. Leo will charm the pants off of you.

There’s no denying that Leo can be smooth as hell and when they want to impress they can turn on the charm at a moments notice.

Don’t underestimate a Leo’s ability to be extremely persuasive either… they can convince people to do just about anything!

 14. Leo doesn’t have time to hang onto grudges and negative energy.

Leos tend to be forgiving by nature and they’re not the types to keep grudges past their used by date.

They see not point in hanging onto toxic and hateful emotions and would prefer to simply forgive and move on.

15. Leo is confident on the outside but sensitive on the inside.

Leo often comes across and cool-headed and confident in their demeanour but what many don’t realize is they can be quite sensitive on the inside.

Sometimes they can be hurting but hide it so well it that nobody is any the wiser.

 16. Leo is playful and fun to be around.

There’s rarely a dull moment to be had when Leo is around and their outgoing and unpredictable characteristics make them a blast to hang out.

Their playful nature is extremely infectious and constantly making their friends smile and laugh.

 17. Leo is a thrill seeker who will try just about anything once.

Leos have a real thirst for life and they’re constantly chasing that next big thrill or adventure.

They hate dull routines and get bored doing the same thing every day so they’re always looking for new ways to mix things up!

 18. Leos have swagger and an effortlessly cool demeanour.

The Leo is able to light up a room and capture the attention of everyone in it with their effortlesslycool and suave demeanour.

Their natural charisma tends to turn heads and attract attention almost everywhere they go.

 19. Leo often communicates their thoughts and emotions through humor.

Sometimes Leo just finds it easier to express themselves through humor and they can be quite good at doing so too.

They know how to make an extremely convincing point by using humor to demonstrate how completely absurd something really is.

They’re also masters at using their funny side to diffuse an awkward or heated situation.

 20. Leo can be crazy competitive.

Leos were born to win and when presented with a challenge or opponent their competitive instincts kick in BIG time.

Never underestimate a Leos competitive side or they’ll make you eat your words.

 21. Leo is spontaneous and unpredictable in love.

When it comes to love Leo likes to always keep things exciting and unpredictable.

They are passionate lovers who will always keep you on your toes wondering excitedly just what it is that they’re going to do next.

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When creating a family, everyone wants to be happy in their marriage. And one of the criteria for happiness is marital fidelity. Willard F. Harley, Jr., Ph.D., a clinical psychologist and marriage counselor conducted an experiment with more than 800 couples and found out that men and women have basic needs that should be satisfied in order to decrease the chances of infidelity.

We read Willard F. Harley Jr.’s book His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage and we want to share the information about which needs, according to Hartley, should be satisfied to ensure that the couple is happy and the partners don’t want to change anything.

1. Her need to have tenderness and his need to have sex

  • Women have the need to have tenderness.

It’s not just about tenderness, but also about attachment and love. These feelings can be expressed in multiple ways: kissing and hugging, flowers, calls, and general caring gestures. All these things make a woman feel protected and comfortable.

  • Men have the need to have sex.

Women often underestimate men’s strong need to have sex. Willard F. Harley thinks that men’s need for sex and women’s need for tenderness are connected. If a man doesn’t show any love or tenderness, there are chances that he won’t get any sex. And vice versa, if a woman doesn’t let a man have sex with her, he won’t be tender with her.

2. Her need to talk and his need to have a friend for hobbies and entertainment

  • Women have the need to talk.

Women need their men to listen to them and give them feedback about what they say. In courtship, the couple happily meets each other and talks. For women, it’s very important to have the same thing in their marriage. Willard F. Harley found out that in order to feel satisfied, women need about 15 hours of men’s attention per week. This is a little more than 2 hours per day.

  • Men need their women to be a companion in entertainment.

Women often share their partners’ interests while dating: they go fishing, watch hockey, and so on. In marriage, they either try to get their partners enjoy what they like or let their husband do what they like alone. But for men, it’s very important that their wives are good companions. According to the psychologist, relaxing with their wives is the second most important thing for men.

3. Her need for honesty and his need to have an attractive wife

  • Women need an honest and open partner.

Women’s trust is based on the honesty of their partner. That’s why, in order not to lose their trust, it’s very important for a man to be honest even with the smallest details.

  • Men need physically attractive wives.

Let’s be realistic: men can’t appreciate their wives only for their intelligence. They also need them to be physically attractive.

4. Her need to have enough money and his need to have a cozy house

  • Women need to have enough money.

We might say that there is never enough money but there is a certain amount necessary for life, stability, and feeling safe. This is what the scientist means.

  • Men need their houses to be cozy.

Men encounter a lot of problems and tasks every day that need to be solved regularly, so it’s very important that they have a tidy and orderly place where they can rest. This need is so strong that they even dream about it.

5. Her need to have a husband who is a good father and his need to be admired

  • Women need their husbands to be good fathers.

It’s important to women that their husbands are good role models for their sons and the image of a perfect man for their daughters. Also, men need to take certain responsibilities in the development and education of their children.

  • Men need to be admired.

It’s important for men to be proud of themselves and realize that their women admire them. Sincere admiration is a serious motivator for men. It inspires them to do even more.

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