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Falling in love is easy. It’s staying in love that takes a little work.

True, it’s important not to force love or push a connection. But if you’ve been together long enough, you know that it’s essential to keep that spark alive from time to time.

There’s a stage in every relationship where couples get too comfortable with each other, that they start taking each other for granted.

You start forgetting to do the little things that make each other smile. Or you fail to show how you appreciate one another.

According to Judy Ford, psychotherapist, counselor, and author of ‘Every Day Love: The Delicate Art of Caring for Each Other.,

“Realise that it is in moments of restlessness and upheaval that you find out who you are and what it truly means to love.

“It’s easy to be considerate and loving to your partner when the setting is romantic, when you’ve got jingle in your pocket, when you’re looking good and feeling fine.

“But when one of you is out of sorts, exhausted, overwhelmed and distracted, behaving lovingly requires conscious effort.

At the end of the day, relationships take work, and you need to put on the conscious effort of choosing to stay in love with each other.

The good news is, you don’t need to do grand things to make your partner fall more deeply in love with you. Read ahead to learn 11 simple things that can ensure your love lasts a lifetime.

1. Appreciate them every day.

You’ve gotten used to each other. That means that you don’t think twice about the things they consciously do to make sure you’re happy and comfortable. But try to remain appreciative of these small things. Always say thank you and show appreciation when they go out of their way to make you dinner or when they buy you your favorite pastry. It might be inconsequential to you, but showing them you’re grateful for all the things they do, no matter how small, goes a long way to making them feel loved.

2. Let them have a life.

Just because you are a couple doesn’t mean you need to be joined at the hip every second. You need to remember that you both have your own lives. You have your own careers, goals, social life, and interests. And it’s absolutely healthy to give each other space. Giving your partner time alone to relax, do what they love, or spend time with their friends and family, can be a nice gift to give them from time to time

3. Offer to do things they don’t like to do themselves.

This is a small gesture, but you have no idea how much they’ll appreciate it. You probably already know the chores or errands that your partner hates doing, offer to do it for them. If they don’t like doing the groceries, take the initiative to do it yourself.

If your partner’s language of love is “acts of service,” they’ll literally give you the heart eyes.

4. Stay away from your phone when you’re together.

Nothing is more annoying than trying to talk to someone who is so busy with their phone. Not only is it irritating, but it’s extremely disrespectful to your partner. It might be good to establish a “no phone” rule when you’re out on date night or when you’re chilling with Netflix at home. Stay connected with your partner, not your smartphone.

5. Don’t ask them to give up anything important to them.

If you really love someone, you don’t ask them to give up anything they love for you. Never ask your partner to choose you over their passion. They will resent you for it. Ultimatums like this can even damage your relationship beyond repair. Instead, support them. Don’t make them feel guilty for spending less time with you. Tell them that it’s okay to do what they love. They will appreciate you for it.

6. Learn to handle arguments in a healthy and mature way.

No one wants to be with someone who loves drama and acts immaturely during fights. If you want your partner to listen to you and respect you, you need to handle your fights and disagreements like an adult. They will appreciate you more as a partner. And it’s good for your relationship, too,

7. Be their soundboard.

Sometimes your partner just wants to vent out. Maybe they’ve had a horrible day at work, or are frustrated about something. Or perhaps they’ve discovered a new idea they are passionate about. Take the time to listen to them. Be a place of comfort for them. They probably do the same thing for you. So don’t forget to return the favor.

8. It’s all in the small details.

You don’t have to buy the biggest and most expensive gifts for your partner. In truth, they’ll appreciate it more if you give them something intimate and personal. Sometimes, even showing up at their workplace with their favorite coffee in hand can make them smile for weeks. Truthfully, it’s all in the small details. Remember the little things they love and incorporate it to everything you give them. This makes all your gifts more memorable and meaningful.

9. Make time for them in your busy schedule.

Sometimes life just gets too hectic that it’s easy to be out-of-sync with your partner. But it’s important to make sure you both have time for each other. Even if it’s as simple as making sure you go to bed at the same time, or having lunch once a week. Doing this makes your partner know that you prioritize your relationship, too.

10. Surprise them with nice gestures.

Everyone loves to be surprised with a nice gesture. Even if it’s just randomly calling your partner to check up on them. It doesn’t have to be big or grand. Take them out on a surprise picnic at the park, or throw them an intimate surprise birthday party. Not only is it fun to plan for you, but it also gives them a feeling of being well-loved.

11. Be their cheerleader.

The best thing about being in love, is having a best friend – and everything that comes with it. Don’t forget to be there for your partner through the good times and bad. Grieve with them when they fail. And celebrate their successes when they come. Be their life’s cheerleader and never fail to make them feel like you have their back. There’s nothing more that speaks of real, deep love, than having a true life partner holding your hand.

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Hard Truths About Love

Posted March 15, 2019 By Mark

People go around throwing I love you’s as if these words are nothing. And when it comes to honoring their words with actions, a lot of them have absolutely nothing to show for… And 

Today I will share with you 10 hard truths about love that can improve not just our relationships, but also our lives, and the whole world.

1. There is no love without self-love

Pay close attention to those people who tell you how much they love you, but who treat themselves as if there is nothing worthy about them. If a person has no love for themselves, they will have no love to offer to those around. How can anyone offer you something they themselves don’t have? It’s just not possible.

“I don’t trust people who don’t love themselves and tell me, ‘I love you.’ … There is an African saying which is: Be careful when a naked person offers you a shirt.” ~Maya Angelou

2. Love is not selective

I used to be so proud of the fact that I had love only for a selective few. And in my ignorance, I failed to realize that my love was flawed and imperfect. Because just as the Eckhart Tolle so beautifully said it,

“Love is not selective, just as the light of the sun is not selective. It does not make one person special. It is not exclusive. Exclusivity is not the love of God but the “love” of ego. However, the intensity with which true love is felt can vary.”

3. Codependency is not love

So many people confuse co-dependency with love when in fact these two have nothing to do with one another. Love is pure, perfect, and honest. While co-dependency is nothing but fear masked as love trying to cling onto other people by sucking the life out of them and by making them feel responsible for our own happiness, fulfillment, and well-being.

4. Love is not blind infatuation

You often hear people say things like: Oh my God, I fell in love! I’m so happy. And then after a little while, the same people will affirm: Oh, I’m so unhappy. I no longer love them. I fell out of love… But the truth of the matter is that what these people felt wasn’t love, but rather a blind infatuation that lasted for a little while and then it disappeared. Because that’s what infatuation does – it comes and goes.

5. Love is eternal

Love isn’t something you fall in, and out of. Love just is. Love is eternal and always present. And iIf there’s true and honest love in your heart for someone, this love will remain with you for as long as you live. And whether you allow this love to be felt or not, that is your choice.

6. Love is not blind, or foolish

Love is not foolish, and love is not blind. Love will not permit us to be walked all over by those we love.

If somebody you love treats you in toxic and unkind ways, out of love for them and yourself, you will be guided intuitively to do what’s right – by either removing yourself from the toxic relationship or by asking them to change and correct their ways – but under no circumstances will love ask you to stay in a relationship where you will be abused, manipulated, and mistreated. So keep that in mind.

7. Love is to be offered to all

You might think that the only people worthy of your love are your family, your partner, your friends and a selective few. But the truth of the matter is that the whole world is worthy and deserving of your love and affection. And since we are all ONE – connected with each other in a profound and meaningful way – it is your responsibility to expand your circle of compassion and offer your love and support, not just to those close to you, but to the whole world.

8. Love needs nothing in return

If you think you have a right to receive just because you have given your love to others, that is a clear sign your love is flawed and imperfect. Because love is pure and unconditional. It offers itself to the whole world without wanting anything in return. And even though we were taught to believe that we should only offer our love only to those who offer their love to us, we should never forget that true love comes with no conditions.

9. The word Love has become empty of meaning, but love itself has never lost its power

We go around throwing “I love you’s” as if love was nothing. But love is not, nothing. Love is everything. Love is the Source of all things. Love is what we all need, what we all seek, and what we all need. And even though the word love has become empty of meaning through years and years of misuse, love itself has never lost its value and its power.

10. Love isn’t what we think it is

Love isn’t what we think it is. Love is what we feel. And since the majority of people have become disconnected from their own hearts and feelings, what we are getting is not love, but an idea of what love is supposed to be.

And these are 10 hard truths about love we should all know. What about you? What is one hard truth about love that you’ve learned and made your life better? You can share your comment in the comment section below.

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It can be hard to know if you’ve found the person you are meant to spend the rest of your life with, but if you know what to look for in your partner, the process can be made that much easier.

Alexandra Solomon is a psychologist who believes that successful relationships are possible and that we hold the power to predict whether or not our relationship is going to be successful for many years to come.

You might think relationships are built on love and trust and communication.

Of course, all of those things help to build beautiful relationships, but there’s one more thing that is necessary to help beat the odds and stay in a committed relationship: self-awareness.

What is “relationship self-awareness”?

Relationship self-awareness, according to Alexandra Solomon, is the ability to stay present and accounted for in a relationship.

It involves understanding what we bring to the table and how our actions, desires, beliefs, and everything about us impacts or influences our relationships.

Most of us just get up and get ready for the day without thinking about how we show up for our partners, jobs, and lives.

But when you take time to stay present and consider the impact you are having at any given time, you might be surprised by what you find.

And you might not like what you find either.

A successful relationship isn’t just about “love”

Some people think that they just have to love someone in order to make a relationship work, but we’ve all heard the stories about people who left their partners despite loving them.

Love isn’t enough.

People need to feel like they matter and that they are being listened to and respected in a relationship.

Someone can love you and not respect you, or it can feel that way sometimes.

Self-awareness is a skill we all need to get better at using.

When we are fighting with our partners we don’t often take the time to consider our part in the fight; we are only concerned with being right or proving our point.

When you stop and listen to yourself and think about how your words and actions might be impacting your partner, you start to take a different approach to things.

What relationship self-awareness involves

People who have developing or developed self-awareness are able to clearly articulate their feelings, and they don’t blame others for how they are feeling.

They take responsibility for their actions and words.

If you’ve ever had a fight with someone who is self-aware, you probably noticed a difference right away: they don’t point fingers, and they don’t put their emotions and feelings on you.

They can have cogent conversations about what is wrong, and they are capable of changing as a result of what they have learned instead of thinking that everyone around them needs to change.

You might not like what you find

It’s interesting to think about how being self-aware can impact your relationships in such a profound way.

We mentioned earlier that you might not like what you find as you start to develop your self-awareness.

One thing you might find is that your partner is not open to becoming self-aware and that will be difficult to manage as you are growing into yourself.

Another thing you might come across is that you didn’t like the person you were before in a relationship and now that you are different, your partner might not like it either.

In order for a relationship to really work, both people have to be aware of self-awareness, and they have to be committed to using self-awareness as a tool to strengthen their relationship.

Being self-aware is not always enough, especially if it is not well received by the other person.

It’s important that you maintain your self-awareness so that you can find the kind of relationship that is right for you, even if it means saying goodbye to a current relationship.

Self-awareness is the best way to predict the success of a relationship, according to Alexandra Solomon.

If the people in the relationships are self-aware, they stand the best chance of being together well into the future.

Their communication styles, respect, and love all play into their relationship in a way that is responsible and accountable.

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Please, don’t live only for your children! Not only they don’t need it, but it’s also harming them … How many destroyed lives, broken hearts, bitterness and misunderstandings!

I see women who have given up on their lives for their children. And then I see those kids whom they gave up everything for. The picture is sad …

I’m begging you, don’t live for the children! Have a different purpose in life, find another definition of motherhood and fatherhood, so the little boys and girls who come to this planet don’t become hostages and victims of your “mercy” and guardianship.

Let them grow, the way God wanted to. Whatever you have it’s enough. Someone has millions, and someone fights to meet ends – it’s different for everybody. You can’t allow it to influence your child and his or her upbringing. It is what it is.

Love your husband. Children grow up, but he will stay with you. You can give the children an example of a good relationship, so one day the want their own family and children.

Obsessing over your children’s ‘problems’ will make you forget who you as a couple once were. Eventually, you will start ignoring your own and your husband’s desires and needs which, probably, won’t end pretty.

Love yourself. Do not forget about yourself in the race for your children’s happiness. Do not give up on the dress because of a new robot. Do not change your beautician for a more expensive tutor.

If you don’t take care of yourself, how can you take care of others? What example are you giving? What kind of love is it? Where will it come from?

Seek the meaning of life beyond the material. This life will end one day, even if you don’t want to think about it now. Spiritual practice, religion, prayer, reading the Scriptures … You can draw strength from there, instead turning your children in a power source.

Do not live for the children, please. When I meet people to whom parents have given everything they ever wanted, and more, it’s really painful to look them in the eye. In many I recognize myself and my pain. I see these pains, broken hearts, empty souls. In their eyes – a cry for help. Pain, despair, guilt …

They – like all children – want to love their parents and be close with them. But simply they can’t do it. It’s draining them.

Give your children the ability to live and breathe. Then they will be able to grow and develop in a way they were predestined to.

We are like gardeners. Our role as parents is simple – ‘water’ our children in time, protect them from ‘pests’, but don’t hide them from the ‘Sun’. Just like flowers they will make the best use of it, and turn into something beautiful. 

 

found at https://consciousreminder.com/2018/12/30/dont-let-your-children-become-the-only-reason-you-live

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You see, trust in marriage can always be built and made stronger over time. Even after trust has been broken, it can be rebuilt using these two proven steps: transparency and effective communication, even when it may be difficult.

As you already know, trust is extremely vital for your marriage to thrive and be fulfilling. It’s also the most important thing that makes pursuing any relationship worthwhile.

In fact, trust is the glue that holds a healthy marriage together because, without it, a great relationship can’t exist.

That’s why we want to show you the two most important and effective steps required for building, or rebuilding, trust with your spouse.

Now, think about this:

Can your marriage survive without trust? 

Is it even possible to have a healthy marriage without the complete trust of your spouse?

As you can see, trusting your spouse is key to a happy, healthy, and fulfilling marriage. From our experience, it is impossible for married couples to have a “real” marriage or relationship without that complete trust.

By “real” relationship, we mean a fulfilling and healthy marriage.

The well-known causes of trust issues in marriages

When it comes to trust issues in marriages, the most common cause is one or a combination of the following:

Extra-marital sex

Lying

 Financial infidelity

Emotional affairs

Constant contact with an ex

Insecurities

That being said, the presence of trust issues certainly plays a big role in many unhappy and unhealthy marriages.

Most importantly, trust issues such as infidelity can result in lifelong consequential effects on your kids, spouse, family, and self-image.

Building and maintaining complete trust in your marriage should be a top priority!

Why complete trust in marriage is so important

Building complete trust with each other is one of the best things we’ve done to build a strong foundation for our marriage.

As a result of building complete trust in our marriage, we’ve been able to talk about anything and be heard.

Also, the freedom to express yourself makes you feel secure. It also creates a peaceful home environment.

In other words, being able to trust your husband or wife provides you with comfort. It reduces stress, insecurity, and worries about your husband or wife not being transparent with you about everything.

Unfortunately, having no trust in your marriage means your marriage could end in a separation or divorce very quickly.

The lack of trust could also lead to an unhappy life with a roommate (your spouse).

Trust also impacts all forms of intimacy

Whether it’s emotional, intellectual, or sexual intimacy, trust plays a big role in how satisfied you and your spouse will be.

In marriage, we have the opportunity to have the most intimate relationship with another human being; our spouse.

For you and your spouse to be so closely connected, you must feel comfortable enough to bare your souls to each other.

Dr. Henry Cloud puts it this way, “Intimacy comes from “knowing” the other person at a deep level. If there are barriers to honesty, knowing is ruled out and the false takes over.” (Boundaries in Marriage).

In order for us to feel safe enough to bare our souls to each other, to be naked not just in a physical, but an emotional way with our spouse, you must be able to trust them.

Again, Dr. Cloud puts it this way, “True intimacy is the closest thing to heaven we can know.

Trust is one of the best perks we can have through our marriage. Truly knowing someone, having them know you, being truly loved and accepted for who you are, is truly mind-blowing.

The first step on how to build trust in your marriage

Building trust in a marriage does not happen overnight. It takes TIME.

Building trust requires effort, especially if either you and/or your spouse have trust issues from past relationships, or marriage(s). There is an easier way to make complete trust a reality in your marriage.

Start by being transparent and completely honest with your spouse.

Communicate truthfully. STOP the petty lies. Don’t fudge anything.

Tell your spouse when you overspend on an item in your monthly budget. Tell your spouse, when you have entertained thoughts about being with another person, or are tempted to cheat. (How do you and your spouse define cheating for your marriage?)

Again, tell your spouse when you are hurt by his/her words and actions, but also be ready to take responsibility for your own emotions. When you forget and didn’t do something you said you would do, be honest about it with your spouse.

Sincere and honest communication won’t be easy all the time. But do it anyway because the end result is worth it!

Honest communication is a simple, yet effective concept. Because the more you establish trust through transparency, the more you will become completely open, feel connected to your spouse, and strengthen trust in your marriage.

Can one little “white lie” really do any harm to your marriage?

Why must I tell my spouse so much? Our answer is simple.

As you strengthen trust between you both, the need for such detailed transparency will lessen over time.

When building, or rebuilding trust in your marriage, you each need to see that the other is being honest and is trustworthy all the time.

From our experience, being consistently open about the little things makes it easier, to be honest about the bigger things that come up in life. Practicing this creates a transparent and honest communication environment in your marriage.

In other words, trust is built through consistency.

Lies or not telling your spouse the truth, because what they don’t know won’t hurt them, simply erodes the basic foundation of your marriage (trust).

In addition, you will find it difficult to be transparent and as a result, being truly intimate on a deeper level with your spouse will not be possible.

“Deception damages a relationship. The act of lying is much more damaging than the things that are being lied about because lying undermines the knowing of one another and the connection itself.”

“Deception is the one thing that cannot be worked through because it denies the problem.” – Dr. Henry Cloud.

The second step in building trust in your marriage

Needless to say, if the first step in building trust is transparency, naturally, the second step will be… effective communication. It’s one of the most important marriage skills that will get you closer to building trust with your spouse.

Effective communication will also help you to communicate without fighting, feel heard, and be able to learn how to empathetically listen to your spouse.

Once you learn how to communicate with your spouse it will become easier to approach or talk to your spouse about anything. For example, you will be able to have deeper conversations, which is the key to intellectual intimacy.

Effective communication is the path that will help you build trust with your spouse. In addition, communicating effectively brings you together, helps you to connect with each other, and makes being honest easier.

Simply because you will be talking to your best friend. The person you have decided to commit the rest of your life to and established an intimate relationship with.

And here’s the best part:

When you completely trust your spouse, sex is better, more passionate, free and satisfying. 😉

You need to be honest with your spouse!

And your wife or husband needs to be honest with you too, even when it hurts.

Take the first steps to establish trust by communicating to your spouse that you need to be honest with each other from now on.

We had a few incidences in our first year of marriage where complete honesty was not present. We hurt each other in the process unintentionally.

But we worked through this by communicating truthfully; explaining that it wasn’t okay. We wouldn’t accept being dishonest in our marriage, forgave each other and made sure to not make the same mistakes again (lining up our actions with our words).

Did we mess up again?

Yes.

It happens to all of us. We are not perfect and never will be. All we can do is strive to be better every day, learn from our mistakes, and move on.

We messed up again. But now, we can say we completely trust each other after implementing the 2 proven steps we mentioned above consistently.

By communicating effectively with each other, we came up with a plan that helped us to survive our first year of marriage.

As you know, part of the reasons why we started this website is to help other married couples avoid the same mistakes we did. Learn from our mistakes to avoid the pain!

The biggest reasons that make rebuilding trust in marriage hard

First, it took you a lot of time, experiences, and reflections to trust your then boyfriend/girlfriend, now spouse. So much so you decided to get engaged and later chose to marry him or her out of the billions of human beings in this world.

Second, because trust is built over time, it hurts so much more when its broken by the person you love the most.

The person you have committed to spend the rest of your life with.

Lastly, as humans, it’s very difficult for us to forget the emotional pains we experience, which makes it more difficult for us to rebuild trust once it’s broken.

And depending on what caused the trust to be broken, it could take anywhere from a few weeks to more than a year to rebuild trust in a marriage.

How to rebuild trust in a marriage

Although rebuilding trust in a marriage after lying is not easy, trust can be rebuilt again after it has been broken.

Look:

It will take time. And sometimes even years to regain complete trust in your marriage.

But how do you rebuild and restore trust with your husband or wife? What do you do when trust is broken?

Well, in addition to the two important steps we mentioned above (transparency and effective communication), below are 18 tips you can implement immediately.

Pick the most relevant tip(s) and start practicing it today.

18 Tips to help you regain, restore, or rebuild trust in your marriage

1. Ask your spouse what you can do to earn back their trust.

2. Promise yourself, and each other that you will be truthful and honest even if it hurts.

3. Share your secrets especially the pains and struggles you go through every day.

4. Learn to fight fair in a healthy way.

5. Stop the lying. It will only make things worse.

6. Be aware of the damages caused, accept your wrongdoings and be responsible.

7. Keep your promises.

8. Listen and pay attention to your spouse.

9. Take the blame-game away.

10. Give your spouse an opportunity to earn your trust.

11. Trust in marriage is mutual. It takes two to make it happen. So, make sure your spouse is on board.

12. Be yourself and be real.

13. Be open to counseling or seeing a marriage coach if need be.

14. Forgive your spouse.

15. Develop a plan of action and execute it.

16. Accept that it will take time and patience.

17. Show your spouse you love and appreciate them.

18. Set boundaries in your marriage to prevent a repeat of the same trust issues that caused the trust to be broken and betrayed.

If your spouse is willing to trust you again, you can always earn his/her trust back. The difficult part is when your spouse doesn’t want to trust you again because of one or multiple betrayals.

In that case, you will both have to talk about what your marriage will look like without trust. It will be a difficult conversation, but one to have sooner, rather than later.

Marriage workshop for building, rebuilding and restoring trust in marriage.

If you are looking for more ways to rebuild trust in your marriage, check out Trust Me! Restore, Renew & Rebuild Your Foundation.

Trust Me! is an online marriage workshop that will help you to build, rebuild, and strengthen trust in your marriage. You can even save your marriage and bring back trust by applying what you learn from this marriage workshop.

Click here to access Trust Me! Restore, Renew & Rebuild Your Foundation

If you prefer to read, try reading some of the best marriage books.

A great one to check out about trust is Healing Your Marriage When Trust Is Broken by Cindy Beall. This book will help you rebuild trust in your marriage.

Your spouse has the best intentions for you

After getting married, the two become one. Your trust for each other must benurtured and protected continually. Never entertain distrust in your marriage.

Always be honest and sincere with your spouse. If you are unwilling to trust your spouse, what are your reasons? What is stopping you?

Whatever your reasons are, don’t be afraid to share them with your spouse. So you can resolve them as soon as possible.

If you need more help, always seek the help of a marriage counselor or coach.

Final thoughts

It’s very very hard to rebuild trust in marriage. Infact, it takes years to build trust with someone so respect and honor the trust your spouse has for you.

Never take it for granted.

Now, if you’re trying to build, strengthen, or rebuild trust with your spouse, practice what you have learned today. And you will be on your way to building complete trust with your spouse.

“A marriage without trust is like a car without gas, you can stay in it as long as you want but it won’t go anywhere.” Unknown

Your turn

Do you trust your spouse completely?

How do you deal with mistrust issues in your marriage?

What are some other ways for rebuilding trust in marriage?

 

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Finding real love and experiencing genuine emotions is something really rare nowadays.  It’s an incredible event that has the power to change your life.  A sensation that will make you understand things you haven’t even realized before.

It’s something that is worth waiting for.  Something that should never be compromised.  Love is an emotion that needs to be experienced fully.  In all its extents, in all its forms is all its realms.  Because only then will we be able to truly understand the meaning of our existence.

In the meantime, know your worth and never settle for something less than you deserve.  Be alone if you have to, but wait for the real things.  Choose to be with a person who genuinely cares about making you happy.

1 – CHOOSE TO BE WITH SOMEONE WHO CAN’T STAND TO BE APART FROM YOU

Find a person who never wants to leave you.  Someone who would enjoy being beside you every step of the way.  Someone who wouldn’t stand not seeing you even for one day.

The person who truly loves you would enjoy seeing you every hour, every minute, every second of the day.

2 – STAY SINGLE UNTIL YOU FIND SOMEONE WHO ALWAYS CALLS TO CHECK ON YOU

Don’t settle for a person who can’t find time to see you.  Don’t settle for the inconsiderate guy who plays his childish games with you and avoids expressing his real emotions.

Stay single if you need, but wait for the right person who will show you that love knows no limits.

3 – CHOOSE TO BE WITH SOMEONE WHO IS NOT AFRAID TO EXPRESS THEIR DEEPEST EMOTIONS

Love is something that should be experienced fully.  It is an emotion that should consume our soul and help us experience the sublime sensation of freedom.

If a person cannot bother to undress their soul in front of you and reveal their deepest secrets and flaws, that’s not love.

4 – BE WITH SOMEONE WHO MAKES YOU FEEL THINGS YOU’VE NEVER FELT BEFORE

Choose to wait for the real one.  Because when he comes, you’ll feel it.  You’ll feel burning sensation inside your fragile heart.  The butterflies in your stomach will go crazy.  Your eyes will glisten the way they never did before.  Your smile will shine brighter than ever.

When it is right, you’ll feel it in your gut.

5 – STAY SINGLE UNTIL YOU FIND SOMEONE WHO FULLY EMBRACES AND LOVES YOUR FLAWS

More importantly, never settle for someone who can’t embrace you for your individuality.  Don’t settle for a person who can’t accept your flaws and constantly tries to mold you into something they need.

Stay single until you meet the love of your life who will fully accept you for who you truly are.

6 – CHOOSE TO BE WITH A PERSON WHO CAN’T IMAGINE HIS LIFE WITHOUT YOU

If you want to feel genuine love and uncensored, raw emotions don’t settle for someone who likes to believe that “there are plenty of fishes in the sea”.

Instead, save your heart for a person who wouldn’t want to imagine his life without you in it.  Choose to be with someone who would love imagining his future with only you.

7 – BE WITH SOMEONE WHO IS PROUD TO HAVE YOU

Be with the guy who won’t be afraid to embrace you with all of your achievement and glory.  Choose to settle for a man who will cheer for you every step of the way, someone who will celebrate your success, not despise it.

Life is short for waisting on all the wrong people.

8 – STAY SINGLE UNTIL YOU FIND A PERSON WHO PROVES TO YOU THAT TRUE LOVE EXISTS

Most importantly, don’t settle for less that you truly deserve until you find a man who will do anything to prove to you that love exists and can be found in the most unusual places.

Stay single until you find this person, guard your soul, nurture your heart and choose to be with the one who will show you what love really means.

PS.  Once you find such a man – never let go cherish him as he will cherish you.  Together as a couple you will meet the challenges and joys of life.

 

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In Service Of The Heart

Posted October 8, 2018 By Mark

In Service Of The Heart

If I spent some time every day connecting to my heart
If I spent some time every day connecting to the stillness there
If I spent some time every day connecting to the peace there
If I spent some time every day connecting to the love there
If I spent some time every day connecting to the Mystery there
If I spent some time every day connecting to myself there
I might live with a little more kindness
I might live with a little more gentleness
I might live with a little more compassion
I might live with a little more gratitude
I might live with a little more peace
I might live with a little more caring
I might live with a little more connection
I might live with a little more awareness
I might live with a little more softness
I might see you in me
I might see your journey beside mine
You on your path through life
Me on mine
And I might ask
Can I share a moment with you
That may be a word, a touch, a breath, a look
From my heart
That simply says
I see you
Can I take a moment to wonder at the world
A flower, a tree, a cloud, the sky
And be a part of it
And breathe thanks
Can I soften my grasp on acquiring
And consider creating
And grow the understanding that there is enough
Can I take a moment to go within
And heal my hurts
That I may be whole to share myself
With life
And teach my children so
And can I sit with you, my love
Your hand in mine
And know, simply know
That your heart beats with mine
Beats with the tides
Beats with the breeze
Beats with the rising sun
Beats with life
Beats with love.

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Here Is Why Most Men Cannot Handle Deep Women!

Posted September 20, 2018 By Mark

There are many beautiful, independent women with an incredible character who are still single. People often wonder how is it possible such a woman not to be able to find a man for herself. They often assume that there must be some hidden problem or flaw that makes men run away, but the thing is that men cannot handle a strong woman.

This is why Man run Away from Deep women:

  • They enjoy deep conversations.

These women are not pleased with small talks and they are not interested in men who talk about the weather or gossip others. They will probably run away from this type of men after the first meeting. They enjoy talking about some serious themes, about the meaning and the purpose of life. They also enjoy hearing stories about their life experiences. This means that they are serious and want serious relationships which is an opposite of what most men expect – having fun and going out.

  • They ask awkward questions

Men are generally known for not being able to give answers to many questions and for them it is really difficult going out with deep women because they can ask awkward questions even on the first date. They can ask them some philosophical question that men may not understand or something personal that they are not feeling comfortable to share with others.

  • They are cruelly honest.

They appreciate honesty, so they will speak their main no matter the price they might pay for it. The won`t tell you lies just to make you feel good. They also expect the same from their partner and they will never forgive a lie.

  • They always know what they want.

Even from the first date and the first conversation they will be sure whether they like the man. They won`t go out on many dates to choose the right guy, they simply know who is the one for them.

  • They expect consistency

They hate people who don’t know what they are doing and change their mind and behavior every once in a while. They like strong bonds with their partners and consistency is the essential part of it.

  • They like people who appreciate their depth

These women never waste their time and feelings on people who don’t value them. They are very passionate and want to see that their partner appreciates that. At the same time, they are very strong and not afraid to be alone, so they can leave their partner at the same moment they realize they are not appreciating their depth.

  • They’re intense

Sometimes it is hard to deal with this type of woman because they go deep in everything. They simply go for the things they want and cannot be indifferent to them.

  • They know everything about their partners.

There is not a thing that they don’t know about their partner. They always know what their partner wants and feels. It is simply hard to hide something from them.

  • They aren’t afraid of intimacy

They are not like some other woman that will hide their feelings only to avoid being hurt. They like being close and intimate with their partner and they built their relationships on that.

  • They love deeply

As we already said they go deep in everything and so they go deep in love. They cannot pretend to be friends with someone they love or to go out with them from time to time. They want serious relationships full with love and understanding. They want their partner to return equally on their feelings of love.

Source:

http://www.positivethingsonly.com/men-cannot-handle-deep-women/

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We are living in the 21st century where everything is done in a hurry. It seems like everyone around us is in a rush, trying to do his daily tasks. Living like this most of us usually forget about the importance of spending time with our family. No matter how busy we are we should always find some time for our parents, grandparents and other relatives.

Having a good relationship with family members is good for our mental health and it makes us feel more confident since we know that there is always someone that cares for us. But this is not the only reason why you should visit your parents and grandparents more often.  Some studies that have been conducted recently showed that leaving lonely life can lead to a development of many diseases and cause an early death. We all know that happy people live longer since their mood influences the work of the vital organs.  Leaving lonely life makes people numb and they seem to lose interest in many things as a result of this they find it hard to do the daily tasks and they often go through the day sitting on the sofa and watching television.

This is especially important for older people who don’t go to work and spent most of their time at home, waiting for their children and grandchildren to visit them. It seems that this visit is the biggest joy in their lives. One study in which the participants were people in their sixties proved that older people are more likely to get ill and even die when they feel lonely.

Having a Good Relationship with Your Mom & Dad Is Good for You

Researches have been curious about the relationship between a mother/father and a child and its impact on the child`s life. So, they conducted studies that included fifth and sixth graders and concluded that children who had a good relationship with their mothers & fathers were more accepted by the other students, had more friends, lead a better conversation, were less critical and felt less lonely than the children who had an insecure relationship with their mothers.

However, this doesn’t mean that you should always have a good relationship, we all have quarrels from time to time. But it is important that you have positive interactions and happy moments with your parents because they have a positive impact on your personality.

On the other side, studies about the relationship between parents and their grown-up kids showed that when they have a negative relationship their encounters could lead to stress and irritation. This is why we should all give our best to make a pleasant atmosphere full with good vibes. When people have a great time on the family encounters they can`t wait for the next time when they will see each other.

Here Are Some Tips How to Put Your Family First:
  • Live in a smaller city where people know the importance of spending time with their family and spend holidays away.
  • When you are together at home don’t watch TV, instead turn it off and have a meaningful conversation.
  • Cook a dinner or lunch and gather the whole family together.
  • Order a take-out meal and enjoy with your relatives
  • Organize your time. Make a balance between life and work.
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When You Love Someone, You Stay Loyal To Them

Posted September 20, 2018 By Mark

When you genuinely love someone, you don’t hide your phone from them and text secretly as you are worried about what they might see on the screen.  You don’t use fake names for your contacts nor delete messages so they cannot find anything.  You don’t answer calls late in the night and lie about the person calling you.

When you love someone, you don’t even consider downloading Tinder or similar apps to flip through your options or see how many matches you will get to boost your confidence.  You don’t even think about flirting with others, even if it is completely harmless.

When you love someone, you don’t act like you are single. You don’t give your phone number to people who are obviously interested in you. You don’t act in a way which suggests that you are available.

When you love someone, you don’t lose self-control! You don’t indulge in alcohol and use it as an excuse for cheating or flirting.  You don’t communicate with your exes and look at them as a backup when your relationship comes to an end. You don’t give others a chance, although you are already in a relationship.

When you love someone, you don’t go to your ex whenever you have a tiny argument. You don’t jump in bed with the first person only because you are angry.  You don’t destroy a serious relationship built on faith and trust for a night of distraction.

When you truly love someone, you don’t make them jealous by flirting with others, even if it is harmless and done only to see their reaction.  You don’t call them weird or crazy for getting angry when you stare at others.

When you love someone, you don’t even consider cheating on your partner as an option, whether it is physical or emotional, in big ways or trivial ways.  You don’t risk losing the person you have for something as insignificant as your libido.  You don’t hurt them, no matter what!

When you love someone, you take your love seriously.  You treat them nicely, with kindness and with respect. When you love someone, you stay loyal to them at all costs.  Here is what loyal truly means:

  • Being loyal means never saying anything that would embarrass your partner in public
  • Being loyal means keeping confidences!
  • Being loyal means being fully respectful of your partner`s weakness and helping him/her to overcome them
  • Being loyal means prioritizing your partner`s needs. Keeping them as primary over the needs of any other person
  • Being loyal means constantly reminding your partner that you will be there physically and emotionally, whenever and wherever needed.
  • Being loyal means keeping your word at all costs
  • Being loyal means never speaking bad about you partner to others. You should share your frustrations and remarks with someone close, but without blaming the partner

Sources:

https://thoughtcatalog.com/holly-riordan/2017/11/when-you-love-someone-you-stay-

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